Re:just so depressed ChristyM: BB's right Kinney ... it is just a transition and not something that shows where you are going to stay as a person.
My life is different right now, but I can honestly say better. I broke out of a comfort zone I didn't even know existed when I was married. Divorce caused me to be even more outgoing (I'm a people person but had gotten used to just hanging out with the ex), question my path in life, realize my likes and dislikes had changed at 35 than when I got married at 22, grow closer to friends and family (especially my daughter) and learn how to accept help.
The thing to keep in mind is what your attitude is like. What has happened to you is a sh*tty thing, but not uncommon. Don't allow yourself to wallow in it and become bitter. If you project the right attitude, things will happen -- guaranteed. People naturally gravitate towards the person that is proactive, funny, self-deprecating, motivated, loving, etc.
I love the following song by Switchfoot:
Dare You to Move
Welcome to the Planet
Welcome to existence
Everyone's here
Everybody's watching you now
Everybody waits for you now
What happens next?
I dare you to move
I dare you to lift yourself up off the floor
I dare you to move
Like today never happened
Today never happened before
Welcome to the Fallout
Welcome to resistance
The tension is here
Between who you are and who you could be
Between how it is and how it should be
Maybe redemption has stories to tell
Maybe forgiveness is right where you fell
Where can you run to escape from yourself?
Where you gonna go?
Where you gonna go?
Salvation is here
Hang in there Kinney -- good things are just around the corner for you.
Christy
Re:just so depressed LettinGo: (((Kinney)))
Just wanted to give you hugs ...
Kelly
Re:just so depressed Kinney26: thanks for the words and thanks for the hugs
it is greatly appreciated.
Adam, uh oh I used my real name
uh, oh yea, Kinney is my real name too.
Re:just so depressed sunseeker: Kinney,
BIG HUGS FIRST OF ALL!!!
I moved in with my mom for about 6 months. I left my ex just before Thanksgiving last year....and emotionally it was best for me. BUT it did wear on me after awhile. The great thing is I SAVED a ton of $$$$ and am now in a position to buy a house.
I know I keep saying this to alot of people...BUT it does get better with time. YOu will still have bad days but they will be fewer and further apart. You'll find peace and joy again...just believe in yourself.....
Re:just so depressed Kinney26: thanks sunseeker.
That is the one positive. If I live with my mom for about 7-8 months I should be out of debt except for my car payment, and be back into my own place by summer. Moving home just makes me feel like I've failed. I know it is her fault, but it just sucks.
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