Re:how about that wedding ring amess: Good one, CJ. It took me a long time to take it off, I couldn't when I was in so much grief, and that is why I didn't. Some cannot take it off until they really accept it is over. Others take it off when they no longer feel married, and can drop that identity. Still, others never take it off. Or, as CJ said, wear it as just a ring. It all depends on you, and there is no proscribed time or date for you to do anything about it. Some said if I took it off, it would help me move on, but I found that to be baloney. I wouldn't even worry about it.
Re:how about that wedding ring tazme: I think the general concensus is that you do it when you are ready. I took mine off after about a month & a half - his 3rd weekend in a row he didn't come home & was w/OW all weekend. I just looked down at it & realized that it signified a lie - it no longer represented a love/marriage that was there.
I carry it in my purse. I don't even pull it out anymore. My finger is finally getting back to normal. I had a wierd setting that made a funny looking indentation. You can hardly see it anymore.
Just wait until you feel it is time.
Hugs!!
Tazme
Re:how about that wedding ring sandy: Thank you guys for your responses. I think my ring will soon slip off if I don't take it. For now it stays, I don't think I could stand questions yet.
Re:how about that wedding ring lookin4alite: I feel the same, the finger feels like something is still there, but it came off the day she told me she cheated on me. I took it off and told her she kill her husband that he died that day. I love her still today, but our marriage died that December 4th, 2003 day. the separation is just the legal form and final acknowledgement that my denial is over.
