Re:how about that wedding ring Bubba: My stbx & I took ours on and off and on and off, till I discovered she never stopped having her affair. Then we both took them off and left them on the counter. I told her I chucked them in the garbage. I reality I've already packed them in one of my moving boxes. I figured why she get the ring I spen 8k on when she is the one that ended the marriage? Afterall in all likely hood she'll sell it so she can buy her boyfriend a big screen TV or something! I figure I will keep her rings, and mine and just give them to my son when he wants to get married.....then again perhaps they are cursed!! LOL
Re:how about that wedding ring LettinGo: I took my ring off the day STBX told me he no longer wanted to be married. Sometimes I still find myself touching the inside of my finger where the ring used to be because it used to be a little loose and I would always be moving it around. STBX took the ring off that day as well ... although he had been removing his ring for his late night trysts for some time anyway.
As far as coworkers go ... I couldn't tell them to their face and still have not spoken much about it, but my best friend (who has spoken to my boss before) called him to let him know what had happened, and he informed my coworkers so that I didn't have to discuss things with them. This may not be the route you want to take, but it worked for me. I would never have been able to tell them myself.
Just take the ring off when you are ready to ...
Hugs, Kelly
Re:how about that wedding ring Tantan: Im with everyone else, take it off when you feel its time. Like Kelly I took mine off right away, I couldnt stand looking at it for some reason.
Ive decided to put mine away until my feelings and emotions have cooled down. I heard that its difficult to sell your ring for even close to its actual value so, what i have decided to do is have the ring melted and use the diamonds and gold to either make a new ring or pendant for a chain, this way my diamond doesnt go to waste, and I will have a nice new piece of jewelry.
Re:how about that wedding ring p_cakes7: i agree with Tantan... take it off when you feel it is the right time. my (engagement) ring has been off and on over the past three weeks. i've worn it for almost 10 years and like LettinGo i find myself touching the inside of my bare finger.
i think i am over the symbolism of the ring, but not over the absence of it on my finger. in some ways that stings more than eating dinners alone.
Sandy, i know exactly where you are coming from. it took me a couple of months to tell my mom. even longer to tell my dad. and i still haven't told all my friends. i told my boss because i had to (wasn't being very productive).
it is important to tell yourself and really accept that there is nothing wrong with you. don't fall into the I-feel-like-damaged-goods hole because you aren't. none of us are.
hang in there, sandy. take it one day at a time.
-p
Re:how about that wedding ring ChrisJane: Many comment on how I wear my wedding ring. Since I lost weight it doesn't fit my ring finger but my middle one. So instead the I'm married ring it now stands for
F- - - you ring.
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