Re:How did you stop caring so much? How long? Matt: A big problem was ( other than the infidelity ) that she refused to "bend like a willow" and wouldn't budge on things i told her were really hurting me.. She used religious beliefs to justify that.. ( but thats a whole nother post in and of itself..)
My situation was that we sat down and talked, but she was unmovable on issues that I had with her behavior.
She was a hypocrite in the truest sense of the word....
Re:How did you stop caring so much? How long? recentlydiscarded: Mine refused to sit down and talk about anything. He was horrible at communicating anything with me. To him it was just easier to give up on our marriage and toss his family out the door rather than trying to deal with the problems (which were nothing big to begin with). I was willing to do whatever possible on my end to work it out if he met me half way and showed some desire to keep the family together. He already had it set in his mind that he'd be "happier being single".
Re:How did you stop caring so much? How long? Kinney26: My stbx is a hugh hypocrite. After she left all she talked about was communication, I don't communicate. She never communicated a thing. If she had maybe we would still be together. I think she was just trying to justify things to herself. One time after the break up she was talking about that kind of stuff and I said, I can't believe that you actually believe the things that are coming out of your mouth right now. She comes up with so many petty excuses to justify her actions and for why we can't work things out it makes me sick.
Re:How did you stop caring so much? How long? Kinney26: I keep wondering when the novelty of going out with her friends all the time and being single will wear off. Then she gets up one day and says, what the hell did I do. She is just a grass is always greener person. Do her friends hold her at night, tell her how beautiful and sexy they think she is. Make love to her and have a family with her. I would think she would miss all that. I guess not though.
Re:How did you stop caring so much? How long? recentlydiscarded: I feel exactly the same. The scary part is that I cant help but think that maybe he wont. Maybe he wont ever realize what he's giving up for that little bit of freedom. Maybe he'll never value his family more than his friends and his single lifestyle. That makes me angry. It makes me angry that he could pick that petty stuff over his own son especially.
by the way he hasnt seen our two year old in 2 weeks now and he hasnt called to check on him or talk to him. Ive tried to call him a couple of times to let the baby talk to him but he doesnt answer when he sees that it's me calling. How's that for a heartless jerk?
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