Re:Denial or intuition? Dazed: My own thread from a while back! I'll re-read it now...
Thanks!
Re:Denial or intuition? brokenman: Oh that is funny. I didn't even notice it was your thread. :) I remembered it coming up before though. I am sorry you are still having problems with this. I hope it has gotten better since the last time.
Re:Denial or intuition? Dazed: It's better in the sense that I'm just getting used to the pain. It's like the time when I tore the miniscus in my knee; I was in incredible pain for over a year, but after only a few months, I was able to walk on it again and the pain just became a part of my normal reality. Now, I'm learning to work around the pain. Learning to compartmentalize, as my therapist says.
Anyhow, at the moment (and it's now been over a month since the "accident") I'm planning my move to a friends over 500 miles away. Just far enough that I can move on with my life with less "looking back", but also close enough that if and when the time comes, he can still reach me. Of course, if he wants to come back, he'll have to really want it. He'll have to really want me. I won't be flying to see him. He'll have to fly to see me. He'll have to show me in more ways than one that this was truly a mistake and he has no more doubts.
But that's all in the future. I just don't know what to do with myself now. If I thought that I had no hope with him ever again, there'd be no question that cutting him out of my life was the only way to proceed. But being as close to certain as a person can see without telepathy that he will return, then I just don't know about the whole "disappearance" thing. Specifially, he recently indicated that he'd like to meet for coffee to say goodbye before I move, but I just don't know. It's now been nearly 3 weeks since I saw him and I've come a long way emotionally since then. I don't know if I'm strong enough to face him and not find myself back on the emotional rollercoaster that I only visit occassionally now.
Help!?!
Re:Denial or intuition? amess: Then probably best not to meet with him, and take care of yourself. Say goodbye on the phone, tell him you're just too busy to meet right now. Use benign neglect. Stay strong, you're doing well.
Re:Denial or intuition? Dazed: Great advice. But as long as you're on a roll...
He's been asking me details about my new place (where I'll be moving). He wants an address and phone number.
Any thoughts?
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