Re: I am Overcome Percy123: Sista, I am not gonna kid you, This sh*t is a roller coaster. One day you think you got it, next day you are blubbering. All you can hope for is that time and healing flattens it out and like a real roller coaster, the end where you finally pull in is flat and slow. Trouble is there is no directions on how to get there. If there were, none of these people would be here!
My suggestion, don't fight it. You gotta go through the grieving process and there are 5 stages I think. Skip one and you don't heal. Let each come and pass.
Re: I am Overcome Beachchick: Pisces -
I moved for my ex as well. The hard part was, he was too ashamed to be seen in public with me, so not only was I not allowed inside his office (I never saw it), I wasn't allowed to meet his friends. He didn't want me to work, but I did anyway, and met one person. Lonliness is difficult. This board has really helped me get through some exceptionally tough times. It will help you too.
Just keep your eye on the prize and remember, that the best is yet to come.
I cry a lot, especially when it's unexpected. Tears just roll down.
I moved three times for my ex. I left my job, family, friends, the first time, the second time, by the time I realized I made a few friends and liked my job, we moved again. The third time, I moved without him. Left him behind.
Although I moved home, I'm still alone. I understand. Just like Percy said, don't fight it. Roll with every emotion, and ride out every feeling. They will pass, and new ones will enter your life.
hang in there...
Beachchick
Re: I am Overcome pisces22: Great advice from you both - thank you
Re: I am Overcome qmambo: Hi P
Check out my early posts, i moved the other side of the world for my ex, been mates for 4 years then living together as lovers for the last 3 and just been dumped. its awful awful i cant spend anytime with mutual friends anymore as they say insensitive things which i dont care to hear and im in so m uch pain you can see it in my face, people at work look at me like a car crash - stuck in a legal battle - to be honest i dont want anything from him but something inside me is fighting - i had to move out of our house (although ev was in his name) and i now live a stranger renting a room with a bed in it. i just cant get a grip on what is reality anymore - scary shit - mum says come home but something inside just wont
