Re: Flaming Cheaters Temporary: This is a really refreshing viewpoint and I'm glad to see that you've forgiven, Batman. Congrats on turning another corner. ;D
Re: Flaming Cheaters yella: I hope for that too. It's good to let the feelings out, but not so great to abuse those who are admitting their mistake and trying to learn from it, simply because it reminds them of what's happened.
We have to try to remember that everyone is different, and situations are different, no matter how familiar they seem. But then again, when you're blinded by that kind of pain, it's hard to do. :-\ No real win here, unfortunately.
I think this is a great post, Batman, and it's good to see you at this point.
Re: Flaming Cheaters JimB: I'm glad you've come to this point, Batman - I've generally found it's better to react to emotional topics with less emotion. But I'm not real sure about some of your reasoning. Particularly:
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her affairs were just part of human nature.
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So the next time you feel tempted to flame someone who is a cheater, cut them a little slack. They're only human.
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While I'm inclined to forgive cheaters who show remorse and a willingness to try and rebuild what they've destroyed, I don't believe it's "human nature" to cheat. On the contrary, human nature is what allows us to choose whether or not to cheat. Human nature enables us to overcome our animal nature, which is what makes us want to sleep with as many partners as possible.
That said, there's lots of reasons for cheating, of which letting our animal nature get the better of us is only one. Ultimately, forgiveness is about the act itself, not discovering the reasoning behind the act.
Re: Flaming Cheaters Batman: Well, the human is pretty animalistic by nature. LOL
Re: Flaming Cheaters superwife: Well, as many of you may know, you can add me to that list. I have come to the realization that, although it hurt me very much, it is something I have gotten over and learn to deal with. I had to, if I wanted to be happy again. It does not mean that I approve of what he did, of course. Nor was I happy about it. But I have come to realize and accept that he was not happy with me, and apparently he is (to some extent) happier with her. And obviously, I was not as happy as I thought I was with him, because the cheating itslef didn't effect me as much as I guess it should have.
But, it may take a very long time for some of the newbies to reach this realization.
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