Question about cheating trying...: I am 90% sure that my stbxw cheated on me, but do not have absolute proof, and she denies the physical part of the relationship.
So I am wondering - would it be easier if I knew 100% for sure that the deed was done - there is no denying the emotional relationship - there is a minuscule part of me that believes maybe nothing happened and makes me question my anger, her intentions, her explanation of our split, etc.
Would it be easier if I just knew for sure - I feel by not knowing for sure it is harder to move on.
Oh yeah, she left me a month ago.
Re: Question about cheating kimberly: I felt much better once I found concrete evidence. I didn't have to doubt my decision anymore and the anger I felt was better than the worry and doubt.
Re: Question about cheating devastated: Only you can decide if knowing for sure makes it any easier for you to deal with it. I think most people would want to know, though. I know I did.
Re: Question about cheating LostTeacher: you have to decide if it's going to change anything. if it's not, then there might be no point.
i poured a lot of effort at first into figuring out if my ex was cheating. i never found concrete evidence, but i had my thoughts....and he's with who i thought he was cheating with.
no one ever knew....most don't believe that he was. but you know what? it never was going to change the situation. we were seperated, we were going to get divorced, and it didn't matter. it wasn't going to make a difference.
some people have to know the truth....but sometimes the truth doesn't matter, if that makes sense.
LT
Re: Question about cheating kitkat: I had a conversation about this subject this morning. At a guess, I think wanting to know is a mechanism for hurting yourself enough to let go (as well as dealing with curiosity). I think once someone has truly accepted that whatever was done is done and the relationship is really over they tend to be less interested in the details of what happened.
Trying, only you can say if it's something that you need to know. Just be prepared that if you find she did (even if you're already pretty sure) it will HURT. If you need that to have closure than you do. Best of luck either way.
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