Re: Not ready for this....Or am I? crushedman: Pay attention to your intuition. There is something that you need that is missing, and that's not going to change. Just tell him the truth, he won't understand any other way. Tell him he's a great guy, but not for you. Simple as that. Everything else is just BS, really. The reason you don't want to be with him is because you don't want to be with him. Wizer is right, the longer you let this drag on the worse it will be for EVERYONE, especially him.
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Re: Not ready for this....Or am I? 2be: gotta agree with the rest here. You've got to tell him that you need to back off because you need to figure some issues out. Sounds like you've told him why and he is just having a hard time accepting it. If he is attached to you, it will be hard for him to accept. But don't stay in it against all your feelings just because he might get hurt. It'll hurt a hellova lot worse later when you two REALLY are involved and your feelings haven't changed.
If he sticks around, he might turn out to be a great friend and who knows what the future might bring.
As to your X... you need to get over that fast. NO good will come of it.... I suspect those sparks you feel for him are the 'bad boy' vibe he puts out that seems to make many women weak in the knees.
Re: Not ready for this....Or am I? flipflopnomore: Well, I sort of just resaid in a text this morning (I know chicken sh**) that I really did like him and he was a great guy, but I do have some trust issues and issues from the past I needed to deal with before getting into a relationship. I also thanked him for understanding.
Hope it didn't sound like too much of a blowoff. Haven't heard from him yet and I sent it a couple of hours ago. Hope he isn't mad.
My stbxh does have sort of the bad boy thing about him. He makes his life out to be so bad that women want to rescue him. Why in the he** is that even attractive?
I confirmed with my gf's that I am going out tomorrow night. Hope its fun.....
