Re: family involvement wizer_now: It's none of their business. From the brief post, I'm guessing that they don't care as much as they want to gossip about the latest goings on between you two.
family involvement surprised: So I hadn't told my family or my closest friend that the ex and I were seeing each other because I didn't really want to deal with a bunch of questions. It's just easier to try to work things out if they are just between us, not between him, me and my family. Well I accidently left a receipt for movie tickets with his name on it out on my coffee table and my sister saw it when she was over. I wasn't home though, so thankfully I was spared the 20 questions on the spot.
But today she emailed me and said how's X. So I played along and said he's fine, so she wrote and said, what's up with that? And I said we've been seeing each other. And I haven't heard back yet. I mean, what the hell, is she mad or something? And if she's mad, is she mad that we're seeing each other or that I didn't tell her?
I just get so aggravated with my family sometimes.
Re: family involvement Chey: Oh gosh, dont you just love to hate our families sometime :) I wouldn't trade mine for the world, but sometimes I could just cheerfully strangle them.
Right now this isn't about anyone elses opinion but yours and your ex. They have to trust you to be an adult, and support you even if you go through this a hundred times. Part of my being a sister is that no matter if I think my baby sisters have done something wrong, I'll still be there each and every damn time to pick up the pieces.
That's just what family does. So if she asks any more intrusive questions, ask her to trust you, be patient, and be there for you to support you.
We're only grown ups to everyone else but our families :)
Re: family involvement surprised: Thanks Chey, I think you're right. I actually mentioned that to my ex last night. That I don't think my family thinks I'm capable at all. He said he thinks his family thinks the same of him. We're both the youngest. So no one in our family takes us seriously. In spite of the fact that he's steadily advancing at work and I'm getting my master's degree, everyone still thinks of us as the bratty youngest kids in the family.
Re: family involvement LostTeacher: if i were to ever get back with my ex (which before used to be a possibility, but now is not) my family would have a huge issue with it. i guess my family is very protective, and they had to help me a lot when i seperated. i really and honestly believe that i would very rarely see my dad again.
i know that it's your life...but when you're from a close family, it's a hard thing to get thru. i think that you working things out with your ex can be a good thing, but i am not surprised to hear that your family is a little hesistant. they watched you go thru the most painful thing you could go thru, and they don't want to see you get hurt again.
LT
