Difficulty lgv: One of the hardest thing, the one that takes literally every muscle in my body tensing is trying not to call him. I give myself an endless list of reasons why I should NOT call him. And yet, I hold my phone tightly, almost like a prisoner, waiting for a chance to break free.
Why can I not stop thinking about him? Why do I miss him so much? Why? when he clearly does no longer care one bit about me... :-\
must-be-strong!
Re: Difficulty hope: Well, I know for me I did much better when we stopped contact altogether. It's hard in its own way, but I think it helped overall.
Re: Difficulty LostTeacher: it's a day by day struggle....sometimes hour by hour. i used to be so proud of myself on days that i didn't send emails, or tried to call. it's tough, but every day you do that brings you closer to acceptance and closure.
it's also about finding other things to do when you feel like calling. calling someone else, posting here, reading, watching tv, getting out of your house, exercising....anything to get your mind off it.
LT
Re: Difficulty qmambo: Hey dont call him, think about how it will go - will it go the way you want it to or will it leave you feeling even worse when he sounds cold and distant and annoyed at the fact that you keep reminding him of what he did instead of thinking hey she hasnt called me whats going on? where's the needy women i left????? i know its hard - in the 8 weeks of being dumped 5 havingmoved out and not living with him i have not contacted him once unless it was about the lawyers or cat or something but then it has only been in response to him calling and txtin me, but then thats my weakness i always respond to him but that has stopped now he doesnt contact me or hasn t since sunday night so i think that is it - but at least it will give him time to reflect - we will still have to have some contact if he messes me around with the lawyers and when i need to finally get all my stuff out of the house and when i give the car back but i cant avoid that, i will try and work around it so we donthave to see each other or speak on the phone
