Re: Does anyone else...? wizer_now: [quote author=foolmeonce link=topic=41509.msg467893#msg467893 date=1172120746"> if they are good dreams enjoy the show and when its over remind yourself the real reason you left.
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To take it a step further...write down those reasons...so you can refer to them, time and time again. Otherwise you can almost talk yourself into believing that you made a mistake...start second guessing yourself. Those "bad" reasons will fade, and possibly be forgotten over time. You need the reminder, so you can continue to heal, which you are still doing, otherwise the dreams wouldn't be there.
Re: Does anyone else...? defuzer: Honestly, I felt that I was good. All healed lol. Who am I kidding; I know it takes a while, no definite time. Two years seems like a long time, but really its not. I know quite well why my marriage ended, and I don’t forget that. It just pisses me off that I go for long periods without thinking about the ex then have a dream and it reopens memories, bad and good.
Re: Does anyone else...? sosad05: I am in the same boat. He remarried a year ago. I am getting remarried in May. We have a very "cordial" relationship for the sake of the kids.
But, I do still have dreams about him. In the dreams, we're together again and I feel so relieved....then I wake up. I will always love him. I will always be sad that our marriage couldnt survivie. I will always be sad that my children have to have divorced parents.
So, I'm glad to here I'm not the only one.
Re: Does anyone else...? Percy123: This thread interests me.....
As I have never talked to her again, I often wonder if she thinks of me like I think of her. I wonder if I am still in her head, like she is in mine......
Re: Does anyone else...? hope: [quote author=Percy123 link=topic=41509.msg465950#msg465950 date=1171972566">
No it is just you........Kidding......I am embarased to say how long I have been divorced and the reason I am here is to deal with feelings that have re-emerged and I failed to address.
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You should definitely not be embarrssed no matter how long it's been! I'm saying that because I often feel embarressed myself :-[ and am trying hard not to be!
I think I 've a similar take as you -- things passing through life, taking the good from them, holding on to the good memories in a way that makes sense. It seems more honest. Sometimes I feel briefly better when I get on the track of he's a jerk, etc. but I don't really think that. He had his faults, I had mine, we were both hurt, and it didn't work out. Sometimes harder to face, but accurate I think, that neither of us was a bad person. I just hope the sadness and missing abates more with time.
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