Re: Sudden break-up licy: your story is so similar to mine :(
i was with my boyfriend josh for 2 years everything was always perfect and he was the most romantic and loving guy ever or so i thought, He left me out of the blue saying he had been offered a job abroad and he really wanted to go for it but it meant leaving me behind. Of course me being the silly nieve girl i am bought the whole story he was huggin and kissing me and cry into my hair for hours the last thing he did before he left was hold me tight kiss me and whisper il love you forever into my ear then he left. that was 3 months ago we spoke online and on the phone for about 3 weeks afterwards but then one night he told me i want to speak to you online its important, i went online he wasnt there i called and text him where are you he didnt reply. iv not heard form him since. Tonight i was very weak! iv been doing so well trying to forget about him and everything we had but tonight i was weak i looked on his myspace profile and hes with someone else! so turns out the job abroad didnt exsist it was all lies, its hurts to think i meant so little to him that he could just leave me for someone else after 2 years together and make up such a huge lie to get out of our relationship
Im very hurt and i dont know how to move on from this, i want to email him telling him what i think of him but i know this will only make him think ha shes still into me and i dont want to give him the satisfaction. its strange you think you know someone you share secrets and itimate moments with this person who loves you so when it comes to it you cant trust anybody, if a guy can say i love you more then anything i cant be without you then just leave !what hope is there
I feel il never trust any man ever again im so hurt :(
Lucy xxxx
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Re: Sudden break-up tryingtosmile: Unfortunately, if he has decided that he no longer wants to be in the relationship, you have to take him at his word. :-\
It sounds like he does have some self-esteem issues stemming from the emotional abuse of his parents. Maybe the best thing you could do for him at this point would be to give him the space he is asking for and suggest that he seek some counseling. If he is willing to go to therapy, he may be able to work through these feelings and make the relationship work.
That old cliche saying is true: If you love something, set it free. If it is meant to be, then he will come back.
I know how hard it is to hear the person you love tell you that you deserve better and that they can't be the one to make you happy. My husband said the exact same thing to me when he left. It hurts because you really can't convince them otherwise. Be strong and do not contact him. Give me all the freedom that he has asked for and continue with your life. He has to realize that you need time alone too to grieve the ending of your relationship and you won't be able to do that effectively if you are still trying to be friends or are constantly in contact with him.
I'm really sorry that you find yourself here and I hope that things eventually work out the way that you want them too! ((hugs))
