Mind games?? MelanieW: You know...I am so sick of being f*cked with. I really am starting to get angry! I have a full month before I can move out of this house and get away from my stbxh. The only reason I am still here is to save money and spend some extra time with all of my kids!
So what does my stbxh do? He decides to mind f*ck me! I really would like to know what he gets out of it! I have showed him nothing that would make him think he is getting to me at all. And I wont!
Ive started taking a little better care of myself. I cut sodas out of my diet. Today I started walking...he decides he must come with me! I went to have lunch with a good friend of mine yesterday...he has to tag along! I fell asleep 3 nights ago, and woke up to him in my bad sleeping right beside me! I get up to go get something for myself, he expects me to bring what he wants. I go to do my laundry, he wants to add his with mine. I cook something to eat, I'm expected to bring him a plate! To add to all of this he STILL thinks it's ok for us to have sex. His excuse is we know each other and we both know the other one is "safe"!
Who the hell does he think he is?? I figure one of 3 things is happening here....either he isn't completely sure he wants a divorce so he is trying to act normal like this junk never happened. He wants to have his cake and eat it to, the OW and then his wife. Or he just gets off on screwing with my brain.
Now Spike no yelling @ me! I am not allowing him to knock me back from all the progress I have made. But I really need to vent this and get some advice before I allow it to turn me into an angry person!
So ~ anyone have any words of wisdom for me??!!
Re: Mind games?? Copperblade: Well if you were another man, and this was a gay relationship, you may feel the same way about sex. But I don't really know what your story is... are you breaking up with him, or is he breaking up with you?
I don't see how he can tag along if you don't tell him where you're going or what you're doing ;)
Re: Mind games?? doodlesmore: [quote author=Copperblade link=topic=41542.msg466588#msg466588 date=1172018419">
Well if you were another man, and this was a gay relationship, you may feel the same way about sex. But I don't really know what your story is... are you breaking up with him, or is he breaking up with you?
I don't see how he can tag along if you don't tell him where you're going or what you're doing ;)
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copper,
are you implying that just because she is female she has a different outlook on sex? and if that is the case......do you think that is a healthy way to look at it? just wanting to know the "males" point of view ;)
Re: Mind games?? qmambo: Mel
Why hasnt he moved out???? You really need to have some distance between you way, either one of your 3 ways of looking at it wont change anything for you, even if he does want to give it another go could you ever trust his sorry ass again? You have started the grieving process but cant greive cos you see him everyday. i was the one who had to move out and he said i cld take as long as i needed and you know what i moved out in a week. i hate where i am, he has everything and i have nothing but im in the process not still stuck at the beginning and its awful and some days i dont want to wake up but i will get there.
You will be angry with him there, when he is no longer there you will then miss him and feel sad but you have to go through it
pm me if you need to i am always here and willing to chat
xx
Re: Mind games?? Copperblade: [quote author=doodlesmore link=topic=41542.msg466598#msg466598 date=1172019690">
are you implying that just because she is female she has a different outlook on sex?
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Well, duh. (That was a joke right?)
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and if that is the case......do you think that is a healthy way to look at it? just wanting to know the "males" point of view ;)
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You mean which way do I think is healthier to look at sex? For their own individual sake, I would say each way is fine for their gender. For a relationship, I think it works like the UN: the major players have veto power.
In terms of "him" and "her" I would say it'll just serve to cause "her" more pain later. While not having sex won't really hurt "him."
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