Update on the GF situation wizer_now: So, some of you have been following the latest chapter in my life. I appreciate the responses to my last thread, as well as the numerous PMs offering suggestions and support.
As promised, here's the latest:
Myself and my GF of 4 months spent a long weekend in Florida. In between my scuba diving and her visiting some relatives, we spent some quality time- read that as deep conversation and great sex- and we went through the issues.
She states that she loves me unequivocally, however, I am sending strong messages that I am just not ready for a new relationship, having just ended a marriage of 18 years duration. During the time I have known her, I have broken it off 3 or 4 times, but I always change my mind. I don't mean to hurt her, but that is the net result.
She feels I need time, to get settled, to heal, to learn to be alone...and to decide what I want. She will be there...at least for now. So we're going to attempt to take a break, for weeks, maybe months, and see where it goes.
I have learned one thing through all of this...I now understand why it is just so necessary to allow time to heal, and to grieve the loss of a relationship before jumping into a new one. Emotions, fears, grief...cannot just be swept under the rug. They will always be there, simmering, brewing, until they erupt. Unless they are dealt with first.
Re: Update on the GF situation Peaceandquiet: Does she have a pulse?
Re: Update on the GF situation Magalucia: [quote author=wizer_now link=topic=41600.msg467942#msg467942 date=1172122955">
Emotions, fears, grief...cannot just be swept under the rug. They will always be there, simmering, brewing, until they erupt. Unless they are dealt with first.
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It is certainly a positive that you are able to see this now. For some it literally takes years. Glad you had a good holiday. She sounds like a great lady.
Good luck!
Re: Update on the GF situation wizer_now: Mag,
Yeah, she is a great lady. Smart, sexy...and I'm probably going to lose her because I can't get my head straight.
This weekend in Florida only brought us closer. That was probably the worst thing to have happened. Two failed relationships in the past year. My track record could be better.
Thanks for the words.
-Steve
Re: Update on the GF situation Peaceandquiet: The average heart rate is between 60 and 90 beats per minute
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