Thanks for confirming what we all thought browneyedgurl: My previous post about moving on was met with some wonderful advice and insight from all of you, so thank you for that. My mother is an amazing woman and today sent me a note reminding me that things aren't always what they seem. She made me laugh a little when she said, "Babygirl, you can only feel sorry for the person who has to work so hard at convincing the rest of the world he's happy. And then you can only laugh when you realise he's trying to actually convince himself."
Apparently my ex has been making a fool of himself around some of our old friends by declaring loudly and with every chance he gets that he's happy and guilt free after our breakup. A lot of them are fed up with having it shoved in their faces and are ignoring his childish antics.
I feel such a surge of pride in myself for having just moved on while maintaining some degree of dignity. Thank you all of you. And yes mom I'm smiling.
Re: Thanks for confirming what we all thought Percy123: "Apparently my ex has been making a fool of himself around some of our old friends by declaring loudly and with every chance he gets that he's happy and guilt free after our breakup. "
I did this myself.......I was lying......
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"Apparently my ex has been making a fool of himself around some of our old friends by declaring loudly and with every chance he gets that he's happy and guilt free after our breakup. "
I did this myself.......I was lying......
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I wish he had more dignity than this. With every day it's getting worse and he's slowly losing more friends. It was his choice to break up with me and yet he's the one ranting like a child. He's accusing my male friends of being the cause behind our break up and saying they're only going to get sloppy seconds. He's been taunting my female friends, being outright rude saying they have no right supporting a shallow person like me.
No one wants anything to do with him now because he's an outright cruel liar. I've asked my friends to not update me any more on his actions regarding me even if they are public rants her chooses to undertake. He justifies all this by saying I'm still out in the world lying to myself and not living in reality. something is very very wrong with this guy in the head and it's creeping me out how much animosity he has and how much energy he is still putting into worrying about me when he basically told ME to get out of his life.
All this is very odd and kind of creepy to me. My career has never been better, my health amazing, and life will indeed go on despite the ache that still lingers. I pray he finds peace and soon. Whatever's going on with him is not healthy.
Re: Thanks for confirming what we all thought Percy123: When I acted that way I was younger and dumber. If I can shed some light on why he is doing it......
It is a defense mechanism. When you are so out of touch with how to deal with the loss, you put up an aggressive and distracting front. This works for a very short time. The apin overwhelms you and the same people he is bragging to now will be the people he is crying to later. Trust me.
Everyone masks their pain in different ways. This is his way. The louder and worse he is, more evident of his hurt....."me thinks thou doth protest too much" not sure if my quote is right but you get the point.
Re: Thanks for confirming what we all thought browneyedgurl: Percy thank you for the insight. It is most appreciated.
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