Re: sod him !!!

Re: sod him !!! sosad05: I'm so sorry you are going through this. ((((HUGS)))

First, you have to stop beating yourself up. You did NOT make him cheat. He is weak and that was his escape. You cant blame yourself for believing the man you love about the job. Why would you think otherwise?

[quote"> a complusive lier and a cheat a stupid little man indeed! im thinking sod him and she is more then welcome to him shel find out one day he aint all that when no dowt he does the same to her![/quote">

Exactly!! Just wait for the "new/fun" stage to be over. In fact, dont be surprised if he doesnt come back to you in the next few weeks.

You have to focus on yourself now. Keep friends/family around that support you. Post on OJAR. Do what makes you happy. If you dont have children with him, avoid contact (Ojarians find that is the best way to get over your x). We understand and are here for you!
Re: sod him !!! licy:

up i know to be honest i have the feeling he will be back when uni ends this summer!! when this job is sposed to be starting! i wouldnt be suprised if he comes back saying o lucy i cant live without you i turned the job down for you! hehe yeah right id quite like that then i could knock him down a few pegs and tell him to go sod off![color=teal"> [/color"> iv known guys who love the thrill of cheating then have the girl they loved for the tart they liked and realised its not so great and the grass is defo not greener they regret it and lose the girl they loved

It irritates me how i get so upset of this insignificant little man i was super happy before he came into my life, i was single and i loved it, i got alot of attention off guys but i just wasnt interested i was truely happy on my own!!! i can be that happy like that again now hes gone i know it he made me insecure in myself and depressed i dont need him to make me happy ;)

sod him !!! licy: hi guys,

Well today was a horrid day for me, i think the shock of finding out my mr perfect really left me for some tart and not an amazing job had finally sunk in!

in the past 4 days since i founf out the TRUTH! Iv........

1) not eaten a hardly bite and lost almost 4 plbs im already skinny so thats not good for me!

2) cried so hard i almost chocked myself!!

3) convinced myself it was ME who made him cheat, It was ME who wasnt good enough for him which made him want to leave,

4) convinced myself that im not good enough for anyone else because to me for so long he was perfect and could do no wrong!

5) Sat up all night thinking about him with her and how he could just forget about me after everything we had together!

The list could probadly go on and on but i have decided now that if he wants to big himself up by making up hes been offered some top job in the USA as an excuse to leave me when really he had a stupid crush on some bit of skirt! he can do that! he knows the truth and he is pathetic! i dont hate him i just think hes pathetic and i dont want a pathetic man in my life anyway.

So im now thinking OMG im glad im out of it! a complusive lier and a cheat a stupid little man indeed! im thinking sod him and she is more then welcome to him shel find out one day he aint all that when no dowt he does the same to her! hes just a fraud who puts on the charm and nice guy act but its all fake! Sorry to rant guys i just for some reason thought to myself why am i so hung up on this looser! yeh perhaps once he was my mr perfect but he proved himself to be alot less then perfect. i deserve better and im not going to find better while im moping around feeling sorry for myself

I just want to say thanks to everyone whos helped me out the last couple of days, its really amazing to be able to talk about things with others helps get it all the bad feelings out

Thanks all

I do hope my current state of mind lasts! i feel im finally able to start to close this chapter of my life for good, its kind of easier now that i know hes just a looser cheat, he must of loved it when i bought the whole job thing, as before this weekend i still thought he was a great guy, and a great guy is alot more difficult to get over then a looser for me!

Lucy xxxxxxxxxx