Re: I feel crappy hope: [quote author=Percy123 link=topic=42038.msg477113#msg477113 date=1173237479">
In doing that I feel bad about myself as if I am not letting go or I think I should be long done with this process.
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I know that feeling. I struggle with that a lot. In my family you're not supposed to feel bad. It's just not accepted. And that's why I think I beat myself up over feeling bad for so long about the divorce. So then, I feel not only bad about the original situation, but my self-esteem plummets, and I feel like a loser.
But I've learned it's okay to feel bad. It's okay to be depressed, sad, anxious. It's okay to feel bad for a long time. And what is wrong with feeling bad? It's painful and obviously not something we want to feel. But it's just a feeling, it's not inherently wrong. It doesn't mean we have to be so consumed by the sadness that we don't live our lives, go to work, date, have friends, etc., other than maybe for a day or so here and there. We can function in the world while we work through all these feelings at the same time.
Hang in there. I was feeling absolutely great in the fall. I came back to this website because after the new year it all came back again, probably because things became final. I know, it's so up and down.
Re: I feel crappy pisces22: I think with the death of your father so soon after your separation and divorce, of course there is going to be some delay and "revisiting" of your grief. I find that the grief over my father and my failed marriage interwine until I cannot figure out what I am grieving and when. And you that makes me a bit bitter!!!! You are not a nut job (your words ;) - you are just dealing with - what you were dealt. And you are dealing with it magnificently.
Re: I feel crappy browneyedgurl: *sitting down next to you with some bandages and tape* Here... let me help with that a bit.
