Jealous christincali: So my bf and I are working on things and we have gone to counseling 2 times to better communicate and get over his parents not accepting him at 29 choosing his own gf and making his own decisions. So things are looking good on that end. But his brother just got engaged to a girl he has been with half as long in Mexico and I am sure his parents are thrilled eventhough they do not really know her (which is better because we let them in to much), and I should be happy but I am getting jealous, 2 of our other friends just got engaged and another couple is moving in together and yet I live at home. Is this normal to be jealous?
Re: Jealous lifeunexpected: Of course it is normal to be jealous. My boyfriend and I broke up recently, and I am jealous of my friends who still have their relationships. It is hard, but I have to tell myself that it is just not meant to happen for me right now. Our time will come to have what we want. Just try to be happy with what you have right now. Getting engaged isn't everything! Be happy that you have a boyfriend who is just as willing as you to work on your relationship! ;D
Re: Jealous Percy123: Don't be jealous. You ned to neasure your relationship on it's own merits. Don't look at others and what they have and make comparisons. They are different. It is very unhealthy to make choices based on external factors for your relationship. Your view and choices should be focused on how you feel about you and your relationship.
Things are not better, faster, nicer, in their world. Just different.
Live your life on your terms and make decisions based on your reality not someone elses. When they get divorced for moving too quickly or making bad choices will you be jealous of them then?
Re: Jealous brielle123: I understand that you are jealous, but don't be. Easier said than done, I know. Don't ever compare your relationship to someone else's, cause you know what? Things may seem all spectacular on the outside....but ALL relationships have their own set of problems, that's just what you deal with when you are a couple. Even the happiest of couples.
Your friends may look at you and your bf and be jealous of something that he does for you or doesn't do that their SO does that annoys them. It's just human nature to compare, most people do....but try not to - you'll drive yourself, and your bf crazy.
I do relate to you though. I used to ALWAYS compare my relationship to everyone elses that I knew. In fact, I was the LAST of my friends to get married, but the one that had been with my bf the longest. Talk about jealous. I waited five years before he proposed, another year before we got married....just to have it all end after a total of seven years later. Bet they aren't jealous that I was the first one of us to get divorced! Oh well, you live and you learn.
Hang in there though, try not to let your frustration get the best of you.
Re: Jealous christincali: Thank you so much for all your advise. I try to keep it in today. If it were not for his parents I think it would be easier and I would not care, but he does not talk to them because of decisions he made to be with me, but at the same time he will not stand up for me. He just lets it go, we are together, my parents do not know, and i feel like such an outsider, guess I have a lot to work on me. We go to counseling together and then on our own, a lot of counseling for someone whom a year ago you would have thought had all her sh#t together. Now I am a mess :(
