WS Mad At BS abandoned1: I don't know why - because I'm almost a year out, that I've been thinking about this off and on lately (mainly when I'm bored and lonely) - but it burns me up that she (now ex-wife) got mad at me for busting her in lies, etc... about the other guy.
I think I kinda understand the defense mechanism/reaction - but it just burns me up that she's upset that I spoiled her fun by busting her in public, holding hands with the other guy. I didn't beat him up like I could have (because I could tell he was a sleazy little bastard that would've sued me for assault), but I did lay into her with words.
She litteraly hasn't talked to me since (approximately 10 months ago), and we went through the entire divorce process (for us without kids and a house) without a word - by her choice, which caused a few minor problems/issues.
It just burns me up though that she can't "woman-up" and own her fault in the affair, as I recognize my faults in the marriage.
I still see her (and him, they are living together, and have been since we separated) from time to time, and she doesn't acknowledge my existence. Seriously. No eye contact, no nothing.
I don't care a whole lot because the damage done cannot be fixed.
BUT IT STILL BURNS ME UP!
Anyone else experience something similar?
Re: WS Mad At BS Percy123: She may be ashamed of herself and is not facing you and is angry at herself. She may even regret what she did, but knows her bridges are burned. It had only been a year and a lot can change in her mind. You may see the day that she apologizes.
She may have left the marriage with this guy but chances are he is a transitional person and a vehicle out of the relationship. Things aren't always bette ron the outside so you may get at least a little satisfaction.
I would be burned up too.
I wouldn't dwell on her anger. It is a diversion and she is transposing her own guilt.....
Re: WS Mad At BS abandoned1: Percy, thanks for the response - and for me, some confirmation of how I see it too. Although she is the only one that really knows what's going on inside her head - I think, but maybe she's just as confused as I am. I also wonder if he (the other guy) thinks all the fallout from our marriage/divorce has been worth it, because if I know my ex - she's been pretty "crazy" these last few months.
They are still living together however, 10 months out, so things must be fine. I'm hoping, and confident it won't last. Anyone but him is okay as far as I'm concerned. I hope she doesn't let me down yet again and stay with this dude. Time will tell.
Re: WS Mad At BS Percy123: I could stay with Hitler for 10 months. I wouldn't take that as a barometer for relationship quality. If thet were togehter 5 years, it still doesn't translate to she is happy or he is happy, just know people take theri problems with them and don't change.
