I want my kids!!!!! doodlesmore: I dont know what all i am going to say in this post. i just know that I can't sleep. I have so much going on in my mind right now it is just too much for me to let go and sleep.
I talked to my ex today. I talked to him about the kids. I told him that as soon as I am on my feet and have my own place I would like to take over more time with the kids. I would like to have the kids everyother week. ( right now we do not have any legal documents reguarding custody. we hace been seperated for over a year and have not made anything legal. every thing reguarding the kids is done verbally.)
He then begins to tell me how that would not be possible. I ask him why. he then begins to tell me how having the kids shuffled back and forth from my house to his would not be good for the kids. ( not healthy or stable )
I then tell him how that is nonsense and that I am their mother and seeing me is NEVER a bad thing. well.....he then begins to tell me how his g/f parents have helped take care of the kids and how they have said they would not think it would be best for the kdis to be shuffled back and forth from my house to his. I told my ex that it is NONE of thier business I AM THEIR MOTHER NOT the g/f parents.
my ex then says how that the g/f parents have helped them with the kids so much ( money, clothes, toys...ect...ect...) that if he let me have the kids everyother week then any and all help they recieve from her parents would stop...... >:(
ok....that pissed me off to no end right there.....
i kept my cool....told him i understood the position he was in but he had to take a look at mine.....THEY ARE MY BABIES!!.....
i also then told him how this would not even be a factor if HE would not have left!!!! >:(
he then tells me how "now it's poor little you"....and "you never do anything wrong".....i told him no...i know i have done wrong....but your the one that walked out....we are in this mess reguarding the kids because of you....then he gets irritated and leaves......
ok....in the mean time....he and i have been talking about reconciling....but...considering how he wants to act reguarding the kids situation...i would have to assume that he has yet to grow the fuck up and be a man.....stand up for what is right and let me have MY KIDS!!!!
and taking that into consideration.....i am very very upset.....cuz i wanted to work things out with him....i did....but how can i when he can't do what is right?!?!!?....
if he loves me.....or ever loved me....or atleast respects me as the mother of his kids.....you would think he would do what is right tell the "parental units" to fuck off and be glad to give me every other week with my children.
:-\
I am waiting for him to grow up........he acts so juvenal.......it's not right.
he acted more like a man at 16 than he does now at 26!!!! >:(
WTF?!?!?!?!?!?!?
anyway.....i don't know what to do or think.....i am currently pondering the thought of just filing the divorce....getting it over with......that way i can atleast have a judge tell him to fuck off and give me what i want.....*sigh* :-[
I don't have anything to lose right now....i don't have my family..i don't have him anyway...and i am not happy now at all....so....idunno....what can it hurt to get things rolling divorce wise?.....
i could have my kids. ...move on .....perhaps find someone that actually appreciates me?!?!? :-[
i just want him to be reasonable.......what makes him want to be an ass? >:(
Re: I want my kids!!!!! boysithurts: doodle,
i don't know your story, but where have you been this past year?, why do you only want your kids now, why are you not on your feet like yesterday!! you sound quite peeved right now, fighting with your x won't get your babies to u. he has the upper hand, status quo has been that the children have been with him all this time, any smart judge will take that into consideration. but the idea that the kids being shuffled back & forth like a ping pong ball is detrimental to them is nonsense. you are their mom, having your x's, g/f's, parents paying & supporting your kids..is a little shameful. no wonder you can't sleep!
i hope you work things out!
Re: I want my kids!!!!! doodlesmore: dude...i only get my kids on the weekends.
i take my children every week end. sorry i did not clarify.
when HE LEFT.....he left me and MY KIDS ALONE!!! he left me there by myself with a part time job and 2 mouths to feed......
due to his foolishness we lost the house that we had purchased together and everything in it.
when they forclosed on the house I had NOWHERE TO GO....he was living with his g/f in a nice comfortable town house....so instead of my kids living with me IN MY CAR i told him he had to come get them......does that give you a better picture of WHERE I HAVE BEEN?!?!?!?!?!?
sorry but i would NEVER leave my kids....have never left them have always tried to do what was best for them. If my ex had been a responsible parent in the first place instead of worrying about every other p*ssy he could get I would not have ever lost the house....i would not have had to go through this seperation....this would not be happeneing.....sorry.....as far as this mess is concerned I do blame him.
he needs to grow the f-ck up.....also....the only reason he had the town house with his ex at the time is because instead of giving me the income tax return money to help the kids and me ....he took it so that him and HIS G/F could get the town house. yeah...he gets town house i get forclosed on....
does that give everyone a "better understanding" of my situation? :'(
sorry if i sound a bit irritated.......but i am. :(
Re: I want my kids!!!!! just_me_detroit: Doodles the courts will support you. Get on your feet and get your own place. The kids need their mom and judge will support that.
Shuffling the kids is BS. My kids go back and forth twice a week and they are doing great.
PS you get this to the court and he will have to give you money to help you support yourself and the kids.
Re: I want my kids!!!!! octoberbaby: Wow that alot of info to soak in....and you did the right thing by having him come get your kids, thats very responsible and if your back on your feet and can support them then I'd get an attorney file for divorce and try to get shared custody. I don't see why you wouldn't get it....either way calm down and think about what you truly need to do and whats best for your kids....also my fiancee has his kid every other week, court ordered....and his child and my step son is fine it didn't mess with him, he still acts the same...good luck with whatever you do....
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