Re: Taking a break from a friendship trapped: Ive broken up with a couple friends over the past year and a half. Long friendships...ten years plus.
But as Christy said.....toxicity was my reason. I realized they were nothing more than energy vampires at this point.
It gets lonely. I can count my friends on one hand now, and not too many fingers......but I think its better than the alternative in some cases.
Good Luck to you. Maybe you dont need a full on break up but just put some distance between you and her.
Re: Taking a break from a friendship wizer_now: It sounds like your friend is in denial about her own children and refuses to acknowledge their shortcomings, while she is quick to point out the faults of yourself and others.
Who needs that BS? There are plenty of other folks out there to be friends with that have a more postive attitude.
One suggestion is to be honest with her and tell her everything you said here. If nothing else, you get it off your chest, and in fact you might just be doing her a favor; although she probably won't see it that way or agree with any of it. But you never know...and it's good practice! Honesty is usually the best way to go..even if it's awkward and painful.
Re: Taking a break from a friendship Topaz: [quote author=trapped girl link=topic=42104.msg478632#msg478632 date=1173537702">
Good Luck to you. Maybe you dont need a full on break up but just put some distance between you and her.
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Yeah, that's what I decided to do. Thanks.
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One suggestion is to be honest with her and tell her everything you said here. If nothing else, you get it off your chest, and in fact you might just be doing her a favor; although she probably won't see it that way or agree with any of it. But you never know...and it's good practice! Honesty is usually the best way to go..even if it's awkward and painful.
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If I felt like we had better communication, I might share some of these feelings with her. I just don't see an opening for it right now, and honestly, I don't have any desire to see her. But you've got a great point about getting it off my chest and practicing communication skills. I'll keep thinking about it.
Re: Taking a break from a friendship clambakesX: [quote author=Trixie (aka Topaz) link=topic=42104.msg479309#msg479309 date=1173716251"> great point about getting it off my chest and practicing communication skills.
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Let me know if you need a list of home-school alums who killed themselves, became alcoholics, killed other people, vote /insert party she hates/, are now public school teachers, or send business to China, or whatever ill you prefer to practice communicating. Like staying up past midnight and forgetting to eat breakfast. Or driving way over the limit then getting off by showing a foreign license and screwing the b'jes's out of foreign tax systems. You name the problem, I'll think of kids whose parents your friend can call.
Re: Taking a break from a friendship Topaz: Oh, Medusa, you so totally rock. Of course, I can't touch any of those topics with a 10 foot pole with her, as she is transforming into the politically correct supermom and as such considers herself beyond reproach.
I think the crux of her decision to homeschool as well as the frustration I am having with her is that it's a control issue, and she is becoming increasingly controllling. She's aware of it - we went on a kayaking trip a while back and when she got into my kayak to paddle with me, she asked me if she could get into the back so that she could steer: "Control freak...hahaha!"
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