Amber Waves of Pain Mango25: OK, I am crawling out of my goddamn skin. It's been over six months now and I can tell that I am, in fact, moving on. However, like a JACKASS, after 7 weeks of no contact, two weeks ago I made the mistake of asking my ex if we could meet to talk about what happened. After giving me a hug with tears in his eyes, two days later he turned on me in a heartbeat, yelled, told me I was hurting his kid (what???) and refused to speak to me.
I can honestly say that I know EXACTLY what is up with him. He is completely unable to take responsibility for what he did (the lying) and the damage that it has done to me. He hides behind "protecting" his daughter when really his is using her as a human shield. There is NO good reason why he can't talk to me, so he uses HER as an excuse and tells ME that he doesn't want to talk because I AM not ready. Right. He then accuses me of trying to "guilt, "press" or "force" him to talk to me if I do so much as GIVE A REASON why it is a good idea. Projection much?
Well, you'd think that I could just let it go at that, enjoy my life and my new, completely informal relationship, and let him go be crazy on his own. Well, I have to tell you that it is driving me INSANE. I want to write him and e-mail and tell him EXACTLY what I think of him. He is SO hypocritical and belligerent that I can barely stand letting him say this shit to me without responding. I am HURT HURT HURT at being told to fuck off yet again, and am absolutely FLABBERGASTED at his complete inability to see REALITY. I feel angry, sad, anxious and absolutely do not know where to put this energy.
DAMN IT
Re: Amber Waves of Pain octoberbaby: Put your energy into your child...and DO NOT talk to him unless it involves your child...tell him your done trying to be friendly, you will be civil in regards to your daughter but thats it...
Re: Amber Waves of Pain Mango25: HIS child -- not OUR child. That's one of the things that's completely fucked up. Her mother ddied when she was 7. I lived with her from 8-10. Then, one day she's spending time with me, cooking and watching TV at my house, and then, literally the next week, her dad let's her know that he is with someone new. I'm never allowed to speak with her again. He immediately introduced the OW and HER children to HIS daughter even though he told me that their relationship "probably wouldn't go anywhere." WHAT THE HELL!! Yeah, and I'm the bad guy in this. :-\
Re: Amber Waves of Pain thejoker: you could always tell the child you will be her friend no matter what.
Re: Amber Waves of Pain Mango25: No, I can't tell her that. See:
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Then, one day she's spending time with me, cooking and watching TV at my house, and then, literally the next week, her dad let's her know that he is with someone new. I'm never allowed to speak with her again.
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???
I am not her parent, so, no matter how crazy it is, or what might be best for her, I get NO vote. He can tell me I'm never going to see her again and there is NOTHING I can do about it.
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