NOT SURE WHAT IT MEANS xbase97: ME AND MY EX BROKE SOME MONTHS AGO NOW, AND SHE WAS THE ONE WHO ENDED IT.
WELL SINCE FEB 14TH WE HAVE STARTED TO TALK AGAIN AND SHE KEEPS CALLING ME AND COMMING TO TALK TO ME OR INVITE ME TO GO OUT WITH HER, BUT WHEN I DO SHE GETS LIKE SHE DOES NOT WANT TO BE WITH ME AND GET AWAY FROM ME AGAIN?
I TOLD HER THAT IT WAS BEST IF WE DID NOT TALK TILL SHE KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS, THEN SHE ASKS ME TO GO OUT AGAIN ON FRIDAY NIGHT?
I LOVE HER STILL AND I THINK I ALWAYS WILL, BUT I CAN'T KEEP GOING THROUGH THIS!!!!!
DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY INSIGHT AS TO WHAT SHE IS DOING WITH THE I DON'T WANT YOU BUT WON'T STOP TRYING TO TALK TO ME EVERY NIGHT?????
ANY ADVICE WOULD BE NICE
THANKS.
Re: NOT SURE WHAT IT MEANS maurice: What were the problems that caused the split in the first place? I've always felt that getting back together with someone without addressing those specific issues is a bad idea. If they are minor but hard to bring out, asking for a time alone to talk and not accepting anything less first doesn't sound to me unreasonable. If they are major, perhaps counseling with a 3rd party is in order?
Re: NOT SURE WHAT IT MEANS xbase97: THERE WHERE LOTS OF MONEY ISSUES BETWEEN US AND SHE HAS A PROBLEM DEALING WITH THAT, PLUS THERE WHERE SOME FAMILY ISSUES CONCERNING MEMBERS OF HER FAMILY THAT WHERE IN HER LIFE EVERY DAY TELLING HER THAT SHE SHOULD BE WITHOUT ME.
I ALWAYS WANTED TO TALK THINGS OUT BUT SHE HAS A PROBLEM OPENING UP, BUT IT'S TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT SHE IS DOING NOW THAT HURTS, I WAS FEELING BETTER TILL SHE STARTED TO CALL EVERY NIGHT.
Re: NOT SURE WHAT IT MEANS maurice: A lot of people here subscribe to the "No Contact" rule. Basically, it means that you set a pre-set time to get away from your ex and work on you. This gives you time away from the confusion to rest and really think logically through what you need for yourself.
One of the great things about relationships is that when you are down, you have someone there to help you up. When that person becomes the one knocking you down, that is the EXACT time to re-evaluate. While it is hard, you are not putting an end to anything with "no contact", you are simply giving a time-frame. While she is unwilling to have a face-to-face conversation, maybe what she (and you) need is some time apart that is pre-set?
Re: NOT SURE WHAT IT MEANS frostbite: [quote author=xbase97 link=topic=42112.msg477920#msg477920 date=1173383946">
I LOVE HER STILL AND I THINK I ALWAYS WILL, BUT I CAN'T KEEP GOING THROUGH THIS!!!!!
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I know what you mean!!!!!!!!!!!!!
But................................. IFFFFFFFFF you want her and she wants you, then GO away (the two of you together), resolve your issues, and then be glad that you did both. It almost sounds like she wants to be with you but is scared of what her family would say. that's messed up.....I know, but put her in a position to be strong for the two of you.
I am longing for my spouse to even desire to talk to me. I'm doing all the trying but my spouse could care less.
My point is that if the body is showing some sign of life, then you can't declare it dead. be wise and get the issues resolved if they can be, but don't be so macho that you miss out on an opportunity.
Again though, I understand the slow torture. It is not nice.
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