Re: Honey, you were absolutely right... wizer_now: Lumpy,
I have been advised by legal council to limit contact with her to bare minimum. She has to realize that things are over and we need to move on. But you make good points and I will take this up with him. In fact I will call him on this today.
Thanks.
Re: Honey, you were absolutely right... Lumpy: [quote author=wizer link=topic=42501.msg484852#msg484852 date=1174410149">
Lumpy,
I have been advised by legal council to limit contact with her to bare minimum. She has to realize that things are over and we need to move on. But you make good points and I will take this up with him. In fact I will call him on this today.
Thanks.
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Maybe the visitation side of things requires a mediator? My deal would be that this is about the kids. It has nothing to do with how the two of you are getting along. You have a right to structured, uninterfered with visitation, as do your daughters.
Re: Honey, you were absolutely right... wizer_now: That could work too Lumpy...we tried mediation briefly and it crashed and burned because she went behind my back to hit me for the higher support payments, even though we were trying to work out the numbers in mediation at the time.
Re: Honey, you were absolutely right... Magalucia: Wizer, I know that you are having issues with your daughters wanting to spend time with you, primarily the older one. However, I think Lumpy's idea serves two purposes. Not only to put your legal rights to visitation on paper, but it is also written proof to your daughters that you want to see them. I would never recommend that you force either one into visitation, but I think it is important that they know in as many ways as humanly possible that you want to see them, that you want to spend time with them, that you are willing to fight for them. I would guess that a part of why your older daughter may not wish to see you is that she is dealing with some abandonment issues. She needs to see that you are not abandoning her. She may still rebuff you but you need to keep swimming even if it is upstream.
Good luck!
Re: Honey, you were absolutely right... Lumpy: If nothing else, extend the offer to her through your lawyer. If she doesn't reciprocate, at least you tried. It also shows the court that you are making the effort.
