Tell your brief story here wizer_now: How about this...
A one paragraph or less summary about who you are, where you have been in your marriage/relationships, and where you expect to go from here.
Here's mine...
We were together for 18 years, married for 15. Two girls ages 14 and 10. STBXW felt I was somewhat "controlling" (even though she had acknowledged in counseling that she had always been "weak" and indecisive and let me run the show)...and that I had distanced myself from her and the children in recent years. I had a problem with her very reactive emotional states and fiery temper, and her excessive deceptive spending and supporting of her family members...which amounts to "financial infidelity"- a real term that is responsible for perhaps more divorces then sexual infidelity. There was no sexual infidelity on her part or mine, there was no physical abuse, and no drug abuse. We basically forgot how to get along. It got so bad we couldn't have a simple conversation without it turning into an argument. She filed for divorce 6 months ago, she then retracted it a month later. I moved out in December '06, and I filed in January. The divorce action is pending, and hostilities are high. There is a high degree of parental alienation syndrome and it didn't help that I have not been very close with my children during the past year. We are no contact except for bare minimums involving the children. I am presently living alone and am single, but I am involved in a serious online relationship and we will be meeting within the next 2 weeks.
EDIT: Lots of great responses, and the openness and honesty is incredible. Keep them coming!
Re: Tell your brief story here BobFromAcctg: He is mine..
Married in 1980 - we were together 25 years.
1982 - She had a BAD reaction to a prescription drug and lost her short term memory. She also lost all the feeling on the right side of her body. This lasted two years and she pulled away emotionally. Never recovered.
Three years of infertility. First child born in 1985. Second son born in 1987 with Spina Bifiada. More emotional removal from me. I was isolated after this.
1989 Third son died during birth. Two more years of trauma getting through that.
Continual stress in the form of hip surguries, back surgeries, brain surgeries for the other son.
1991 Fourth child born I moved to the couch. Stayed there for 7 years.
1997 I had a mental breakdown and was hospitalized because of the isolation in my marriage. I also moved out of the house.
We were apart for 4 months and were able to get it back together.
More stress from the first child being violent and becoming a ward of the state. His anger / violence lasted for almost 8 years.
2004. Second son diagnosed with Lukemia. Unbelievably difficult. Best if I was invisible. We worked through the cancer but that was the end.
2005 I moved out to prevent me from another mental breakdown.
2006 Filed for divorce - granted 3 months ago.
2007. Better times ahead. The boys all now understand how hard I worked to keep everything together but that it just wasn't to be.
Good times.. Good times. Shesh..
Re: Tell your brief story here Magalucia: First love
Together three years
Engaged
Planned wedding
He cheated
I left
10 years apart
We reunite
He says "I have changed, matured, realized what I lost"
We marry
Problems almost immediately
I think he drinks too much
He thinks I am nuts
I think he is cheating
He swears he is not
Counseling
Things are good for a while
We have a baby
He is involved in auto accident - two people die
Heavy drinking
Drug use
More counseling
AA/NA meetings
He stops working
He disappears and comes home at dawn drunk/high
More counseling
Money disappearing/jewelry disappearing/other's property disappearing
Lies, anger, hostility
I find drugs in car in house near my child
Ultimatum
Counseling
Lies
Separation
More lies
Loss of hope
Re: Tell your brief story here Lumpy: Wowzers. Compared to Bob and Mags, I had it easy. I'm sorry, you two. I hope things are looking up.
Re: Tell your brief story here Loshyra: Lets see....my whole story goes something like:
1991 - Met who I thought was the man of my dreams,
1994 - Married said man
1995 - First child- Daughter now 11
1996 - Seperated
1997 - Got back together to try and work things out
1998 - Seperated again
1998 - Found out I was pregnant after being seperated for 4 months (long story short - didn't know, had no signs until one day when I was 5 mnths pg)
1998 - Got back together to try again
1999- Second daughter born
2000 - Divorced and found out youngest has JRA and will probably be disabled for life
2001 - Met second husband, married
2003 - Started to physically abuse me, although had been VERY emotionally abusive since beginning of marriage - kicked him out
2004 - After trying one last time because he swore he changed, divorced
2005 - Met current husband
2006 - married
2007 - Pregnant expecting our only and last child together (health issues on my side....)
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