Re: How is it? gns: Dear flipflopnomore,
After hearing your story do you REALLY think he is a treasure to anyone? Also if he is still doing drugs and numbing any feelings he has (bad and good) is he really capable of loving ANYONE?
But you are capable of feeling - bad now, good later - who really wins? I am trying something new "give what you want to receive". So maybe we could try to give to someone more lonely then we are - on the few occaissons I have tried it made me feel great, less lonely and like I was setting up good karma.
Re: How is it? pluscachange: [quote author=Captain Class Clown Chaos link=topic=42539.msg485654#msg485654 date=1174484092">
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How is it that the ones who fu**ed up, wrecked everyone's life, devastated families and children are the ones who move on so quickly?
My ex claims he doesn't have a gf, but yet has been seen at parties all over her and spends time with her and I sit here alone night after night. My phone is not ringing at all and I don't think it will.
How is it fair or right that I am paying the price of devastation and lonliness after everything HE has done and he has someone?
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b/c they moved on long before the actual event happened, they were just too chicken shit to be up front with thier spouses (You, me - everyone here) about it.
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Truth. Absolute truth.
To be honest if I came home tonight and she said "it's over" I would essentially be over it before she completed the second word. When things reach a certain critical level, you go through the entire process, whether you're still together or not. The one that leaves I'd bet, as you say, goes through it before it's over (which I can relate to, sadly), while the one left is blindsided and goes through it all after the fact of the split.
Re: How is it? vdc_1975: [quote author=Captain Class Clown Chaos link=topic=42539.msg485654#msg485654 date=1174484092">
b/c they moved on long before the actual event happened, they were just too chicken shit to be up front with thier spouses (You, me - everyone here) about it.
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I agree 100%, and I am the one that left and ended the marraige. I decided years ago I wasnt happy and didnt have the guts to bring it up then.
