Should I tell him how I really feel? It's driving me crazy! HarlemAngel001: I keep thinking about my ex...I can't stop...He said, last week that he wanted to hang out with me during Spring Break, but he never called. He got his phone back yesterday. I sent him 3 myspace messages over the course of 3 days, he read them all but never replied...I called him last night, and left a message asking if he wanted to see the 300 with me today...I doubt he'll call back. He said before that would be cool. So why is he being like this? He's totaly blowing me off! I confronted him with that before and he was like, "I'm not blowing you off...." Last Thurs he was sweet, I opened up to him some. Friday he was cold and distant, I saw a side to him that hurt me...He is really different some how...What happened to the happy go-lucky guy I fell in love with? This...is something different. During our relationship, he never once saw me get angry or upset or express that I was pissed. Even when he broke up with me...But this is how I feel now...I want to leave him a voice mail telling him how I feel and saying how he had never seen me angry, I was never angry, but now I'm pissed that he's blowing me off....Tell him, that one thing that really bugs me is when people say that they are going to do somehhing, and then they DONT, when people lie to you. I feel like he lied to me about everything. And I really want to tell him this, how I'm really trying, all I Want to do is see and talk to him, and he's making it really hard. How he SAID he wanted to, and now he's having this hot and cold thing. How he was fine one week, and a complete polar opposite the next.
Would this make it worse if I did this? I really want to, because he has never heard anger in my voice or anything, and maybe this will open him up and he'll want to call me and find out what's up....But I dont want to ruin any chances I MAY have of getting back with him.
What do you think? I hate feeling this way...I have all this anger, and I need to tell him. All my friends are like, "TELL him." If I cussed him out, or slapped him in the face, no one would think badly of me. I wold be justified. But that is something I could never do...This anger I feel for him? It's because I care so much about him...And I need to tell him this, but I dont want to push him FURTHER away...What do I do??
Re: Should I tell him how I really feel? It's driving me crazy! vdc_1975: No, do not contact him.
You have already tried and he has chosen to ignore your attempts at communication. You will only look desperate and weak if you continue attempting communication.
Good Luck
Re: Should I tell him how I really feel? It's driving me crazy! thejoker: The best thing to do is go punch your pillow until you aren't angry anymore.
other than that voiceing your rage and sadness gives him the power and makes you look rather pathetic and desperate..
Re: Should I tell him how I really feel? It's driving me crazy! yella: It's best not to contact him, not for the way it'll make you look, but for the way it'll make you feel. I've been down this road too, and trust me when I tell you that the more you try to contact him, and hang on, the worse you'll feel.
This is one thing that's best to do cold turkey. If he cared, he'd contact you each time he said he would. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Time to move on. ;)
We all slip back and contact when we know we shouldn't. Later on down the road, like a few months, you can try a closing e-mail. But only when you feel strong again, and when you know that you won't want to go back.
Until then, when you feel the need to talk to him, try an unsent letter here. It helps to ge t the thoughts out, but keeps you feeling stronger too.
Re: Should I tell him how I really feel? It's driving me crazy! AMG: Do not contact him... nothing good will come from it. His actions are speaking quite clearly... :-\
I think you are making excuses in your head to rationalize contacting him (we have all been there!). You have this idea in your head how you want it to turn out ("maybe this will open him up")... chances are it will not go as you expect it too and you will be left feeling even worse. It is a good idea to post on the unsent letters, etc. At least that way you can get your feelings out, so they stop eating at you.
No contact is VERY difficult, but it is the first step that you can take to start to heal.
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