addiction related stories wanted gns: I am trying to understand what kind of role addiction played in our break-up. Can people share their stories? It would be very helpful.
Thanks, Geeta
Re: addiction related stories wanted flipflopnomore: I can. PM if you want to know my version.
Re: addiction related stories wanted wizer_now: My stbx and I are both addicted to fighting with each other. We became experts at figuring out how to push each other's buttons. That addiction has not been treated as of yet, and we continue to battle as we struggle through the ardous process of divorce.
The only difference is that since we no longer speak we have the attorneys do the dirty work at a combined cost of $800 per hour.
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I am trying to understand what kind of role addiction played in our break-up. Can people share their stories? It would be very helpful.
Thanks, Geeta
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Re: addiction related stories wanted flipflopnomore: Yes, addiction played a huge role in our divorce if you ask me. If you ask my ex he will deny it. He will tell you I was miserable just to be miserable.
He is an Rx addict in denial. To him, popping a few vicodin before work is what everyone does. Taking 10 lorazapam at 7 am on Saturdays is healthy. Making up stories and going to ER faking headaches to get morphine shots is what everyone does. You get my point....
I was becoming a wreck. I became the classic codependent. I lied for him. I covered up his headaches and ailments with lies. I was miserable inside. He slept all the time. On the weekends he would medicate himself and literally sleep from Friday afternoon till Monday morning. It was lonely hell for me. But I loved him and was determined to stay married.
We had major fights and issues because of it. I hated watching him sneak pills and always looking in his eyes to see if he was on anything. One time, he felt that if I gave him his medication once a day and hid the rest that it would help him. After a few days I notice some missing. He had turned the house upside down looking for them. My daughter had major knee surgery and he was stealing her percocet. Just one at a time so I wouldn't notice.
The angrier I got, the more he got defensive and made it my problem. I was insane. I was trying to control him so he said. I was just looking for something to bitch about.
I think he knew that someday down the road I would have enough and leave him. His first wife did because of the pills. We had a huge fight one day about the meds and he turned into something else and said he wasn't happy and left and hasn't returned since.
He is now a full blown alcoholic and still pops the pills. I guess the addiction was more important to him than the marriage and his family. Strange thing was I told him many times that I would stand by him if he went into rehab. You will never compete with an addiction if its untreated.
Its sad and I am devastated still. Despite all of his faults I still love him and wished things were different. He is a sick person and would have taken me down with him.
I hope this helps. Would love to hear your story.
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