Re: Advice for those wanting their Ex's back. Lumpy: Man, if my farkin' ex-wife asked me to take care of her farkin' dog while she and her boyfriend went to Honolulu I'd tell her to go fark herself.
Re: Advice for those wanting their Ex's back. wizer_now: [quote author=TheDude link=topic=42574.msg486084#msg486084 date=1174511483"> The person who left the relationship did so ONLY thinking of THEMSELVES
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Dude, nice post but generalizations like that are always dangerous, and sometimes are just plain wrong.
After a year or so of constant fighting my wife filed a bogus RO and had me removed from my home. She also filed for divorce. She eventually retracted everything. We briefly reconciled. Eventually, my denial lifted and I moved out and filed for divorce. Now she is fighting the divorce with everything she's got. I was the leavee but became the leaver.
For a damn good reasons. And I never cheated, never physically abused..none of the "bad" stuff. We got sick of each other. She realized it was over before I did. When I finally left for good she couldn't handle it.
I was thinking of everyone when I left, not just me.
Advice for those wanting their Ex's back. TheDude: I have noticed quite a few of us posting the fact that we are longing for Ex's to come back into our lives.
I recently received some great advice that really stuck with me and I wanted to share it with you. Now I know that everyones situations and circumstances are different, but I really believe that the underlying message can be applied to all.
When people decide to leave their relationships for selfish reasons they quite often do so and later regret it. In the meantime the person who is left behind is left with feelings of rejection and longing for their partner to return.
As we all know, in some cases the person who left the relationship comes to the realization of what they gave up and comes back wanting to reconcile.
Now, I'm not saying to NEVER consider taking someone back as I believe in forgivness and allowing for people to learn from their mistakes. However, what I want YOU to do is make sure that if you do decide to take them back that you do so in YOUR best interst and not only theirs. Sometimes we let our impulse emotions take over and we forget to take into consideration OUR OWN best interests at hand.
The person who left the relationship did so ONLY thinking of THEMSELVES and when they come crawling back, they are doing so becasue they realize how good you were for THEM.... [color=red"> Do you see the trend here???[/color"> Even though they are trying to reconcile your relationship, they still only thinking of their own best interest.
PLEASE take this into consideration. Even though it will be difficult to seperate your impulse emotion from your long term happiness.... The latter will be so much more fulfilling.
Be Safe Everyone!
TheDude
Re: Advice for those wanting their Ex's back. tryingtosmile: Very well said. Thank you for sharing, dude :)
Re: Advice for those wanting their Ex's back. snkpack: That be TheTruth, TheDude.
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