Shame in loss of the dream... kelbelleplus1: I guess much of my life has been about appearances. The appearance of living the dream. I always thought the best revenge against the toxic people in your life was to lead a wonderful life.
Now I am suddnely stuck with the shame of not having that anymore. Although I am grateful for my blessings, I cannot help but feel as if not having the picture perfect life is visible to everyone.
I feel ashamed that as my belly grows everyone will notice there is no ring on my finger.
I guess I am too acutely concerned with others opinions, but I can't help it.
Re: Shame in loss of the dream... darkrose: It's not so much leading a wonderful life, but being content with your life.
You should not be ashamed of what your husband did to you. He should be the one that's ashamed. You're the victim, he left you because he realized he had to put on big boy pants and grow up and play adult. He couldn't handle that. How is this your fault?
Being pregnant, well stuff happens. You were still married when it happened, so not only is he scum for walking away, but he's a jackass for walking away while you're PREGNANT.
Don't worry about what other people think about you.. You know what they say? Opinions are like a$$holes..Everybody's got one and it's full of sh!t. Remember that. :)
Re: Shame in loss of the dream... wizer_now: People are going to talk about you. Accept it as fact and just roll with it. Everyone has their own shit going on in their lives. In your case, you are a single unwed mother. In someone else's case, they are a closet homosexual or pedophile...or even a serial killer that has not yet been brought to justice.
In the end it doesn't matter what anyone thinks.
Re: Shame in loss of the dream... Percy123: Hey no shame in the gift you got of a child.....You will look back in 20 yrs and feel so blessed.
You are hurting casue you did not see yourself here. You lost the picket fence and the yard full of kids and loving husband. That sucks and that innocence is gone, but you are truly blessed with a child.
I don't have one, never know if I will and wish for that very much.......
Life will go on and a new dream will come!!!
Re: Shame in loss of the dream... sosad05: [quote"> Hey no shame in the gift you got of a child.....You will look back in 20 yrs and feel so blessed.[/quote">
Exactly! When you are 70 years old, what is important is that you provided the miracle of life. To that little person, you will be the most important person in the world. I know your circumstances arent what you dreamed of, but try to enjoy your pregnancy. It goes by so fast. Once the baby is here, you have soooo much to look forward too.
((((HUGS))))
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