Re: Past abortion... what would you say? JustBlu: I have come to realize that no woman goes through an abortion or miscarriage without long lasting effects, be they small or big there is always an imprint witht he loss of a child.
I think it would be important to talk about a little more if she is willing.
Blu
Re: Past abortion... what would you say? l0progression: What would I say?
I would be sympathetic to her loss, and also understand that it is in the past and there is nothing that can be done about it?
And whats all this business about wanting to be someone's first for something. I dunno, comes off as a little possessive. Maybe I'm just over reacting. Who cares about people's first? The first is usually NEVER the best. My first kiss was not the best, my first time having sex was not the best, my first love was not the best, my first marriage was not the best. And all of the above were with different people. Its a myth to expect to share all of your firsts with one person and stay with that one person. Instead of focusing on being someone's first for something, focus on being someone's best for something.
Past abortion... what would you say? bjs2005: So, let's say you're in bed one night and you're having some pillow talk about children. You turn to your partner of a few months and say something to the effect of "I know we've both been through a lot, and a lot of firsts have been with other people, but at least I could be the first to give you a child." She then goes completely silent. You ask what's wrong and she says, "I've been pregnant before and I've had an abortion so you won't be the first to get me pregnant either."
What do you say?
P.S. This didn't happen to me, it happened to a friend who just called me and told me it happened to him last night, I'm just seeing what everyone else would say to him. I wasn't sure what to say. I would have just told her how I felt about abortion and that it's in the past and I was sorry I couldn't be first with that, but there will be other things(I guess.) I dunno.
Re: Past abortion... what would you say? Lumpy: The past is past. Can't be undone.
Re: Past abortion... what would you say? Crystal_Blue_024: Ditto
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