Re: So there is this girl.... l0progression: [quote author=sheyd link=topic=43036.msg493549#msg493549 date=1175720884">
When I was younger, I used to just pay more and more attention, waiting for them to pay more back until it was obvious. But back then, people didn’t worry about “rules” or “looking needy, clingy or desperate”. People didn’t come with the baggage of wondering if they will get rejected again if they show interest. They would just show you how they felt until it became obvious you are both spending more and more time together. That doesn’t work these days too often, since everyone is a bit insecure.
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That totally sucks. That would be so much easier. I hate the head games, the rules, and coming across as clingy or needy. It all just seems so dishonest and artificial. I'm starting to believe that casual sex is far easier than dating, especially in this day when nobody wants to commit to anything and everybody is broken/insecure/comes with baggage and is afraid of getting hurt again.
Like I said, I'm in no rush to start dating, but if I do I want to do it right this time around. But at the same time, I'm feeling a little rusty as it was all just casual stuff last fall, I was in a relationship for three years prior to that, the year before that I purposely stayed single except for a couple casual flings here and there until I met the girl who would become my temporary wife. Before that I was in a relationship for 1.5 years. So basically, I haven't really been dating since I was 16. With the exception of that one year, and this past fall (neither of which times I was actually looking to date someone or actively pursuing dates). Argg... This crap is frustrating.
