Weird friend falling out Zipsfb: So I met this guy (B) through a friend (A) and we got along really well. By January we (B and I) had each others phone numbers and would talk occasionally online. Early January there was a miss understanding where he (B) felt that, since I didn't return his Text message, that I was blowing him off. What really happened was that he phrased it weird and I thought he was telling me he was going out and not inviting me over for a couple beers. Whatever, we resolved it within a few days and he apologized for over reacting. I apologized for misunderstanding him.
Since then we've both been really busy. I started dating someone on top of school and work, and haven't had time for anything. The little time I do have is consumed with hanging out with my GF, going to the gym (sometimes with friend A), and going out once a week with my GF, her friends, and sometimes friend A.
Last night I ran into friend B and he was very cold and short to me. After a while I AIMed him and apologized if he feels blown off, but I've been busy. To sum up the convo he basically told me that I was one of those friends that seems cool but never follows through with hanging out, a convenience friend. I said I was sorry he felt that way, but I was trying to make it up to him by hanging out now. He told me "thanks but no thanks".
Thing is, everytime we've hung out it's been at my place (he lives near me), under my invitation, and only because I took the initiative to contact him. He has made little effort to contact me.
Whats the deal? Thoughts?
Re: Weird friend falling out Percy123: It is a weird situation. Usually male to male friendships are not this complicated. I cannot see or talk to some of my buddies for years and hang out like it was yesterday.
It doesn't seem like a good friendship. A good freindship is not one sided. If I have a buddy I call a bunch of times and notice they don't call me, I kinda give up on it.
I wouldn't sweat it and live your life. Why complicate it?
Re: Weird friend falling out just_me_detroit: Huh???
Is he a friend or a girl friend?
That is one weird friendship.
My buddy calls 3 weekends in a row and I have time we go ou then we go out.
If I don't hear from him for 6 months then I run into him. I say "hey what's up bud. Haven't seen you around. Lets go get a beer."
Zip I don't understand why your friend is acting weird.
Re: Weird friend falling out td: I have to agree that he is acting strange... My friends and I can go for weeks without talking and it's no big deal... we all realize that life can be hectic sometimes and you just don't have the time. I say that you don't need a friend who is going to act like this.
Re: Weird friend falling out Percy123: JMD,
I had to read it a couple times.
I agree. Your friend is acting like a girl. None of this is standard dude protocol and is a violation of the male rule book of buddies.
1. Men don't have misunderstandings
2. Men don't over react
3. Men don't feel hurt when men don't call
I am not trying to discount your feelings on this subject, please don't get me wrong. I can only measure things by my experience with my freinds. The only time I run in to confusing situations, misunderstood feelings and the need to apologize when I am not wrong is when I deal with women.
In dealing with my freinds a "what's up dude?" is about all the communication skills I need.
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