Re: My story Magalucia: Alex, I am sorry this has happened to you and your kids. Do lean on your family as much as you can and allow them to help you through this. I would caution you, however, on leaning too much on Lucas and on making him "the man of the house". He is 12 and still a kid. I would encourage you to try to protect him as much as possible. As much emotional support as he may be to you that should not be his job. It is a tough thing for a kid to carry the hurt of having his dad leave and on top of that the burden of trying to make his mom feel better. I am not trying to make you feel bad or guilty. I am just suggesting that it is better for you to lean on your family and in turn for you to be there for your kids to lean on you.
All the best.
Re: My story Alex04007: My husband left Friday last week and do now why yet.There was no letter anywhere.My husband has not called at all yet.I found a support group Tueday,went to it last night and the others in that group welcomed me in after hearing my story.My family is being there for me,My father told me I am a strong young lady and do not quit on this.I am being there for my kids,I have taught them love and to be respectful.
Re: My story flipflopnomore: [quote author=Magalucia link=topic=43055.msg494483#msg494483 date=1175823448">
Alex, I am sorry this has happened to you and your kids. Do lean on your family as much as you can and allow them to help you through this. I would caution you, however, on leaning too much on Lucas and on making him "the man of the house". He is 12 and still a kid. I would encourage you to try to protect him as much as possible. As much emotional support as he may be to you that should not be his job. It is a tough thing for a kid to carry the hurt of having his dad leave and on top of that the burden of trying to make his mom feel better. I am not trying to make you feel bad or guilty. I am just suggesting that it is better for you to lean on your family and in turn for you to be there for your kids to lean on you.
All the best.
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Good advice. If your son is feeling like "the man of the house" he is shouldering all the resposibility...or so he thinks. Too much for a kid.
When my ex left I went into devastation mode. I just laid around, didn't eat, cried all the time, didn't do anything. I tried to hold it together, but I couldn't. My kids, and my son especially, started just hanging out with me. Trying to take care of me. My son started trying to do stuff around the house without me asking. Things he couldn't do.
Finally their dad (not my ex that left) told me that they are all really worried about me and that when they were around I needed to hold it together a bit more. I felt bad.
Not to say you can't be sad around your kids. But they need to see that they will be ok too. Like someone said above, lean on a friend or family member.
Re: My story vdc_1975: WOW, he literally left you at the drop of a hat and you have not heard from him at all in a week? That is crazy. I am sorry you are going through this. I am glad to hear you have family to rely on.
Good Luck, and God Bless you Alex.....
Re: My story darkrose: [quote author=Alex04007 link=topic=43055.msg494596#msg494596 date=1175862605">
My husband left Friday last week and do now why yet.There was no letter anywhere.My husband has not called at all yet.I found a support group Tueday,went to it last night and the others in that group welcomed me in after hearing my story.My family is being there for me,My father told me I am a strong young lady and do not quit on this.I am being there for my kids,I have taught them love and to be respectful.
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You're on the right path. My family has been wonderful throughout all this.. They've kept me on the path, encouraged me in everything I do.. It's great that your family is stepping up to the plate. I don't know where I'd be now if my family wasn't there for me.
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