Re: Games or second-thoughts? Percy123: Not to high jack this thread but maybe to add some levity to a troubling situation I offer the following joke:
2 guys are walking down the street. They see a dog licking his nuts. The one guy says "I wish I could do that"
The other says "I am sure if you are real nice to him , he'll let you"
Re: Games or second-thoughts? Percy123: Getting caught in a relationship wit one of these people is impossible. I think it is a time bomb. If not now, later.
Mine was this way. "if only this...." and it just kept coming. Perpetually unhappy is a good description. The unhappiness is on the inside. Not in external things.
I would be happy on the moon.
You have to be a happy person inside. When you are there is joy all around you in the simplest of things. When you are not, the most beautiful gifts in life go un noticed. (until they are gone)
Re: Games or second-thoughts? kelbelleplus1: I have moments of clarity while I lay in bed awake at night... and I realized that
when we lived in London, he wanted to live in Florida
when we moved to Florida, he wanted to live in London
when he got the job he really wanted, he hated it
when he left the job he hated, he realized it was a mistake and wished he still had it
These were only minor things, but eventually I was not good enough. What I am thankful for is that his unhappiness made me realize that I am a contented person. I was willing to work with what I had in him, and I think even that showed optimism on my part.
Re: Games or second-thoughts? darkrose: Kel, I know what you mean.. My stbxw was a lot like that. Most people would kill to have the arrangement we had, I worked long hours to support us so she didn't have to contribute and most of the time, I did all the housework, too...all she had to do was drop our kid off at daycare and pick him up 8 hours later..
..and she couldn't even do that! She left because she was unhappy..and now I'm thinking that she realizes she's unhappy for reasons other than the marriage..but I realized she made ME miserable..even though it still hurts a little, I'm so much better off emotionally without her.
Re: Games or second-thoughts? kelbelleplus1: [quote author=Wishing for Impossible Things link=topic=43068.msg494133#msg494133 date=1175798666">
but I realized she made ME miserable..even though it still hurts a little, I'm so much better off emotionally without her.
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Thats it really. The realization that we are better off without them. I feel like I am me again, and only now realize how much I changed in those 7 years to accommodate the relationship.
But as I have revealed in previous posts, I am sucker for the dream. The dream that my kids will wake up on Christmas morning waking up mommy and daddy in bed... I just feel so frustrated that the dream is not gonna happen for them. Sure, they will join the other 50% of kids who are from divorced homes, but thats not the pretense they were conceived under.
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