Re: cheating and inadequacy/betrayal darkrose: [quote author=KimPossible link=topic=43098.msg494793#msg494793 date=1175882830">
But I have come to realize it is more of his inadequacies.
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That's a very good point. Most people who cheat aren't being vindictive or anything, instead he/she has some major self-esteem issues...at least in my experience.
My stbxw to this day will tell you I was too good for her..and on many levels I've come to realize she was right.
Re: cheating and inadequacy/betrayal BobFromAcctg: I was not cheated on but I feel COMPLETELY inadequate. For one, my X was completely replused by the male anatomy and showed that by laughing... She didn't do it very often but enough that I never forgot that feeling and it has been two years since I was with her.
Thats enough for now but I understand the feelings inadequacy.
Re: cheating and inadequacy/betrayal licy: I started to feel better when i started to think of him differently, id built this guy up so much had him right up there i thought he was amazing. but when it came to it he was just another jerk but one who put a good mr perfect act on when he needed to and when he couldnt keep it up with me anymore he cheated and moved on to the next girl. My ex never liked to go out drinking becos when he got drunk he became vunerable he would be all senseitive and talk to me about his insecurties he did not like that at all. He always put this huge front on that he and everything in his life was perfect soon as anything started to sway from not being perfect he would get aggitated and stuff! god typing this i think i had a lucky escape from a nutter!! lol you think you know someone after 2 years with them but in reality you really really can never really know someone!
i think im over him but im starting to struggle getting over the fact he actually lied to me, treated me asif i meant nothing to him and never had, cheated on me and topped it off by leaving me for her does that make sense?? over him but not over what he did. its hard to deal with the whole why am i not good enough. Pretty sure if i found some hot stud to take me out id soon get over that tho! just getting the confidence back to find a new guy
Re: cheating and inadequacy/betrayal JNA: HIGHJACK...LOL
Hey licy...
licy wrote: "god typing this i think i had a lucky escape from a nutter!! lol you think you know someone after 2 years with them but in reality you really really can never really know someone!"
Well...
I call my ex a "Nutball" so we are not far off on that one
LOL
The last part of your post is what intrigues me...
The fact that "we" never really know them
I had something happen to me that I do not talk about much here but know how you feel...
Realise this
All these people like him and her just run from one to the next ok...
Expecting a different result
It will all end the same for them...
If it will make you feel any better my ex cheated on her husband...Aborted the guys kid she cheated with
Then used me (I feel) and ran back to him...
But to most she is a "good" person
You never really KNOW anyone ok...
So protect you and your Heart
Stay Strong
JNA
BTW...She was "so" sincere too...
Emphasis on "SIN"
