Re: 'letting go' .... advice needed!! mikevitto: wow krissi, me and u r the same in a weird way.... the cant let go part is right on...im always wondering and hopeing...i feel like i cant let go of my past with her or my best friend being gone..i just cant understand it all..i feel like im lost and cant find a way out...every second my mind is dedicated to her and she is soooooooo far gone its sick...like already with some1 else,but i still cant let go...i still cant get out of this funk,it has caused me to lose my job,whatever remaining friends i had,and my house is next......i hope u find your way out for i feel your pain to the fullest,i am sorry for your pain cause i am in it also...they say time heals all wounds,it has gotten easier but the pain is still there..i hope 4 months in im at a better place...stay strong and post here,the people here are AWESOME and very supportive....
Re: 'letting go' .... advice needed!! Peaceandquiet: Sorry if I am repeating what others have said.. but there is no time frame.. there is no magic date that you get to that you realize it is over.. it will be a day when you least expect it. It will be a day when they do or ask something of you and you realize that they are no longer the person you fell in love with.. they are the person you fell out of love with. Most of the times the person that is left behind is left with that statement.. that they are no longer in love with you. But as time passes you will realize that the same feeling can come over you. You will still carry with you the fond memories and you will often look back upon the past as soething to cherish.. but it will never be that same longing that you feel now. I can't explain it really.. but at some point that person becomes a stranger with memories.. and you go on to live your life. I can only relay my personal experience and it doesn't hold true for everyone.. but I hope in many cases that it does.
Re: 'letting go' .... advice needed!! krissi85: thanks for your replies and support :)
wow jacqueline.. thats sounds intense. But thats pretty much what my friend was saying i should do. its devastating and core shaking, but it releases the pain (somewhat anyway) and helps you to move forward
And your right, its hard to let go of everything that you've worked towards. for me it was a future with him, a family.. to let go of that is admitting it didnt work and that hes not for me.. its hard i guess
but it is definitely a personal path, and everyone deals with it differently..
we just have to stay strong (wouldn't it be nice if there were a magic date when it was all better though!!)
