Re:Should I pay mitrexx: We have one child together, but she is wanting my money and support so that she can pay for all the things that she needs to and have an entertainment expense. She olny works part-time so I know that things are going to be REAL tight for her, but I feel like that is not my conern. She left me. I didn't ask for this. What the he@%.
Re:Should I pay RecoveringinDE: I'm probably going to get flak for this, but, wouldn't be the first time. :-\
Not looking at it from an emotional stand point, but, from a legal stand point, you may want to contact your lawyer to see if you are required to "help" her maintain her "independence" lol. Oxymoron if you ask me, but, anyway. The only experiences that I've had with Divorce/Seperation other than my own, the spouse making the most money always gave the other support even during the seperation. I asked why they did it and they said that it shows good faith. Plus the fact that you have a child. You certainly don't want the stbx driving around uninsured.
I understand what you are saying about not wanting to help her keep up her expense account, and trust me, I certainly wouldn't do it. She wants her independence? Well, she got it. But, would rather be the voice of reason and advise you to check in to it so it doesn't come back and bite you on the @$$.
Just my 2 cents.
RiDE
Re:Should I pay dj_pinkey: [quote author=mitrexx link=board=1;threadid=4500;start=15#msg36168 date=1096475941">
We have one child together, but she is wanting my money and support so that she can pay for all the things that she needs to and have an entertainment expense. She olny works part-time so I know that things are going to be REAL tight for her, but I feel like that is not my conern. She left me. I didn't ask for this. What the he@%.
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Working part time is her choice! If she was putting in some overtime and still having trouble maintaining necessities (food, shelter, utilities), then I might suggest helping her out with a loan. You could suggest that your child stay with you (if that's an option for you) to decrease her expenses in that area. ;)
Re:Should I pay mitrexx: She said that she is trying to get a full-time job, but that it will take a couple of months. I think if I was having problems making ends meet that I would go get another part-time job, even flipping burgers. I said that to her about taking our son full time until she could provide and she got really angery at me.
Re:Should I pay recentlydiscarded: well if you have a child that she has physical custody of I think that it is your responsibility to give her some money for the child. You can pretty much figure out a good amount that wont leave anything leftover for her to "have fun" with....but if you hold out on your child now...the judge will frown upon you later.
I know that isnt what you wanted to hear but everything changes when there is a kid involved, regardless of who wanted to leave.
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