I don't love him cinnamon girl: I met my husband while pregnant with my son. My son's father had left the picture and I quickly fell in love with my husband. 5 years later and another kid later I am starting to think that marrying him was the biggest mistake of my life.
I think I married him because he was there. He was willing to be a father for my child. he was willing to support and love both of us.
I honestly want out. There is no attraction. Being with him intimately makes me ill. We have no relationship other than the forced one we've created because neither of us wants to admit we don't belong together.
Neither of us are happy. Ever.
We don't talk. We don't enjoy each others company. We don't parent the same way. We have managed this long by living seperate but side by side lives.
I don't love him. I don't love anyone. I just want out.
Re:I don't love him Shanna: so what is your next step? Maybe you all should try counseling.
Re:I don't love him seth: If neither one of you wants it then who gets hurt--aside from the children, that is....
With me, there was at least one person who got really hurt. That person is still posting to this site six months later.... Does he feel the same way?
Re:I don't love him KickingMyself: did you feel that way even when you married him? be honest with yourself, not looking through the disappointment you feel now. if you did once feel in love with him enough to marry him then you have a good chance of regaining that. try councilling. and that was a good question from seth, does he feel this way too? because you made a vow to him and you owe it to him to at least try your very very hardest before giving up. he has been there for you through very tough times and stuck by your side through what sound like times that were unfullfilling for him also. you owe it to him to show the same respect for him as a person to at least try councilling. and to ask yourself if you are maybe unhappy with yourself and blaming your husband for any of your own unhappiness. i say this from experience. in the end you may find out that you did marry for the wrong reasons and it's best for you to part, but you really owe it to yourself and to your husband to try as hard as you possibly can before giving up.
Re:I don't love him Suddenly Single: If you are this unhappy and know he is then...it is time to leave. Staying in it for the kids - I don't believe in that...the kids are probably feeling the tension and that is more damaging. It would be worse to stay. I say - sit down and express what you feel to him - if he agrees - you both can begin the process and move on. If there is any part of you that wants to stay - get counseling.
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