Alcohol notoverityet: Okay, so here I go...
I have to admit, I think I've been using alcohol way too much to get through this. I know I'm not an alcoholic (or I think I'm not anyway), but at night, when I'm feeling kind of low and powerless, a couple of drinks really help. At first it was once a week, but now I find myself drinking to forget... and drinking to fall asleep... just about every night.
Once of by biggest gripes about my ex was that he drank at least 6 beers a night, EVERY NIGHT! He always came to bed with a buzz and had to take at least 4 aspirin before he went to sleep. It totally grossed me out and was one of the biggest problems in our marriage.
Now, here I am, doing the same thing that my ex used to do! Today was Saturday and I actually had a hangover!!! It was so hard to enjoy my day with my daughter, and I found myself unable to give her all the patience and affection a 21 month old deserves. I just kept looking at the clock, waiting for her "bedtime" so I could get a little rest. And hating myself throughout the day because every day is so precious and I didn't have the recourses to capatilize on every minute.
No, I am not one of those people who lets alcohol affect their lives or their relationships or anything like that. I don't drink in the morning and I don't embarass myself at parties. But since this divorce, I've been having a hard time getting through the evenings without pouring myself a drink.. or three. Can anyone relate? Any suggestions? I just don't want another hangover to ruin another day...
Notoverityet.
Re:Alcohol SugarSweet: I think you know what you need to do. I don't want to sound judgemental or harsh, but you said it yourself.
[quote"> I found myself unable to give her all the patience and affection a 21 month old deserves. I just kept looking at the clock, waiting for her "bedtime" so I could get a little rest. And hating myself throughout the day because every day is so precious and I didn't have the recourses to capatilize on every minute.
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I can relate to watching the clock, and sometimes hoping my son will go to bed early, but that is because I am tired, not hungover.
I am sorry, I can not relate to picking up the bottle to solve anything. I do know that alcohol ruined and killed my Grandmother, my marriage, and is slowly destroying my step mother, and my fathers marriage.
You may not think that this is a problem now, but no alcoholic ever thought there was a problem with a couple of drinks. Then one day it was too late.
My prayers are with you, and I hope that you are right, and that you do not have a serious problem. That is a long hard road to travel, and I wish it on no one.
Take Care, I am sorry if this is not the response you were looking for.
K~
Re:Alcohol MadorSad: Just stop then if you find you self needing it go get help ;D. Your stbx sounds like me but I just stoped and I did not need it so I moved on. I still drink but not every day. Hope this helps if not Message me and I answer any questions you have it can get out of control and fast
Mador Sad
Re:Alcohol jason_stl: [quote"> I find myself drinking to forget... and drinking to fall asleep... just about every night.[/quote">
You will learn soon enough that this is one of those destructive patterns to get over post-divorce. I did it - in fact, I did it a lot. There was a comfort that the Captain or Jack would bring me that I could not find in anything else. Life was absolutely miserable then and I spared my friends from hearing me complain about life.
Jack and coke was a good friend for a while when I would come home to an empty apartment. My place was completely lacking of any warmth or hospitable feelings. Then I would stumble upon something that made me remember her and I would go straight for the good stuff.
How to get over it? Wake up one morning after an all-night binger. Where you can't focus the whole day, where you can't eat, when the after effects of hitting the bottle make you feel even more miserable than what you felt before. When you can't remember parts of the evening because you were too inebriated. When you realize that alcohol is impairing your judgement and pushing away people that wish to help you. Look in the mirror after that and decide to make a change for the better instead of the worse.
It isn't an easy journey.
edit: fixed spelling errors.
Re:Alcohol notoverityet: Thanks, everyone. Your posts really helped me. I went to WHOLE FOODS today and bought some homeopathic drops that are supposed to relieve anxiety and help with sleep.
After that hangover a couple of days ago, I've decided I'll just swear off the alcohol, at least for the next 6 months to a year, since post divorce moderation doesn't seem possible right now. In the meantime, I'm trying to make life-affirming choices as I want to be as healthy as I can be for myself and my daughter.
Again, thanks for your support and honesty.
Notoverityet
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