Big Question for the Guys LSFool: Ok, here's the situation:
I had been on 4 dates with this guy that I really liked. He called on time and once just to talk for a while while I was staying with my dad. He seemed excited by me and eager. He had everything that I was looking for. He took me to great places and insisted on paying for everything. We had a decent amount in common.
Well, last night, after our 4th date, he walked me home. I had asked him if he wanted to come over and watch the presidential debates this Thursday night and he said yes.
We started to have our first "open-mouth" kiss. It was a little awkward.
We said good-bye and as he turned to leave, he turned around again and said," Listen, I don't want to lead you on. I'm not feeling the chemistry in a girlfriend sort of way. I have a great time with you and I like you a lot, but I don't feel it."
I said," Oh. Well, I really appreciate your honesty. I do wish you had said something sooner. Have a very nice night."
So, I guess we are off for the debates this Thursday.
I am attractive. I have never been accused of being a bad kisser or having bad breath. I didn't fart or belch.
What happened guys?
???
Re:Big Question for the Guys in_search_of: Ok, I am so not a guy, but I have a question...
How was the kiss awkward, maybe he was not feeling it before, and so that made it awkward? You think? Or was it that the kiss was awkward that he was not feeling it?
Just two ways to think about it (and only one of them even hints toward you being a bad kisser, but it doesn't really come out and say that, I have had no spark with people who kiss just fine!)
Re:Big Question for the Guys jason_stl: Gimme some more information. Like, four dates over how many weeks? Did you two talk a lot on the phone? If so, what about? Did you keep it short, or did he, or were they long questions about life?
I am delaying my answers until I know more.
Re:Big Question for the Guys Shanna: I am not a guy either, BUT
I dated this guy in college and I really liked him we had tons in common, enjoyed being together and all the stuff you need for a relationshiop, but there were ZERO fireworks. I had to tell him so we could still be friends. I think he is attractive and everything just no chemistry...maybe that is what happened.
sorry this happened to you...maybe you can be friends still?
Re:Big Question for the Guys LSFool: Jason_stl,
It was 4 dates since the first week in August. He called me at my dad's house when I was up there for 8 days (my dad is terminally ill) and we talked for a long time. I cam back and we had another date.
On every date he acted so interested and the dates lasted along time. He is a little shy.
I am a bit of a talker, but I am aware and except for one time I kept it short.
So what do you think?
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