Hi Everyone, I'm new here! betteroffalso: Hi All! I can really relate to what I've read so far. My story is this, 10 mos. ago my husband left me and 2 YOUNG kids. Moves in with OW and her 3 kids. I've been through it all emotionally. I wanted him back so bad. Now, I am at a good place. Most of the time. I mourn the loss of being married and I still think "if only he would have tried harder we could have had such a good thing and our kids would have their daddy". Anyway, our anniversary was a couple of days ago, it would have been our a7th yr married, 9th yr together. We are still not divorced. Yet he and OW are already wearing wedding rings. They just had their baby girl last week. (Yes, she must have been prego right when he left if you do the math) Now she has 4 kids. My husband will be her 4th husband and she will be his 3rd wife. She is 33 and he 32. Do you all think they will last? I just want him to fall on his face. I want him to feel what he has made me and our kids feel. Its so unfair! We are over here struggling and he's off livin high having babies waiting to be married! He seems so happy! Thanks for listening everybody. Any advice would be much appreciated.
Thanks!
Re:Hi Everyone, I'm new here! Suddenly Single: BOA,
I welcome to Ojar! You've come to a great place. I never know where to begin with these posts...First of all..I'm glad to here that you are at a good place, second of all...what makes you think he is happy...if he is on his 3rd wife and doesn't have the ability to be alone for 5 minutes...please don't believe the illusion he is happy. I felt the same way about my ex...how can he just go move on with OW and behappy...he isn't ...I know that deep down...people like him and your ex are OBVIOUSLY NOT happy people.
Good Luck BOA! We are here for ya!
Re:Hi Everyone, I'm new here! cloud: I have to agree with the previous post.
I've had a few beers and I've been out in the Sun so please take my advice with that in mind.
I see your ex as a person who can't swim on his own. He left your relationship--a marital life raft--and then he jumped right into another one.
He'll always have the fear of the water because he can't do it on his own.
You, on the other hand, have had to swim--even if you were capable of it to begin with--you were forced to do it.
If he's happy with all of those kids, more power to him. He's now got---7 kids in his life now?
Does he see the children he has with you?
Whether it's yes or no, he has got a lot of stuff to deal with--whether he sees that now or not.
I wouldn't let yourself think that the grass is greener over there.
Re:Hi Everyone, I'm new here! picadilly: Welcome BOA.
Ditto here to SS & Cloud. Remember that a a person that jumps from partner to partner is not always the happier person. There is a reason they bounce around like a ping pong ball. They need that instant gratification, they can't feel like they can ever be to intimate with someone for too long. They always end up messing it up or looking for something they precieve as being better, when it's not.
Think abou tit. Why is this woman 3 times divorced? Why is he working on wife number 3? You see, it's because they are insecure in who they are. He springboarded from you to her, so he never felt there was any "lose", you however are left to pick up the peices.
I'm glad your moving on, more or less, eh? :) You got your kids, keep them well & safe. Your stbx will be sorry he missed their growing up, later.
Be well.
