To Lostinlife betteroffalso: Hey! I'm new to the board but just wanted to tell you a little of my situation. My ex also was raised in a loveless home. Parents to date still show no affection to each other. Toward the end of our marriage he was constantly asking me that question. Now that I am not in the situation and I look back on it, I realize it was an attempt to keep him from having to say it. Its like the setting would be right for it, perhaps intimacy, so his inner self felt the need for it but so he wouldnt have to say it he would put it on me. The reason I later found out was that he was cheating on me. Putting it on me was his way of avoiding the fact that he didnt feel he loved me anymore. It was much easier for him to say " Do you really love me?" I also think he was trying to make me doubt myself. Every time he would ask that I would be like, how much more can I assure him that I do? Its not humanly possible. He knew I did, but if he could make me feel like I needed to try harder then I would be foucusing on me and what I needed to do in our relationship to reassure him than see what was really going on. It was very manipulative. I'm not saying he's cheating on you, just wanted to share my exp in hopes it may help!
Re:To Lostinlife seth: Oh, man....
My ex is in therapy and on multiple antidepressants but she tried to "transfer" this to me. Apparently her therapist thought I was "terribly depressed." When my ex left, she said that I wasn't happy in our relationship either.
I'll tell ya, that takes a hell of a lot of nerve to leave someone and then tell him that that's the best thing for him.... She presumed to tell me how I felt. As she left she actually said, "I question your mental health." Oh really, Ms. Antidepressant Addict...
Sorry for the tangent! The point is that people will try to transfer these feelings and blame to you and it's complete B.S. >:(
Re:To Lostinlife seth: Yeah! I'm my own man now and I don't have to put up w/ her sh-t one more day! I agree w/ the above post. Ultimately my ex leaving me will be the best thing in my life....
