Re:bipolar wife wants a divorce Cowboy12:
Hope your still around jojo319, my wife has been diagnosed with BPD, and ia also an alcoholic, not a good mix, hang in there mate.
a good article I was reading recently.
It is becoming ever more evident that mental health conditions are involved in many cases of domestic violence and abuse. For example, Dutton (1995, p. 140-155) and Gelles (1997, p. 80) have correlated borderline personality disorder (BPD) with domestic violence. BPD affects an estimated 2% of the population and 75% of the diagnosed cases of this disorder are women.
Bipolar disorder is also often linked with violent and irrational behavior. Though restoration of a person's lithium balance is well known in the treatment of bipolar disorder, it is often not applied in dealing with domestic violence. In fact, many times a person is jailed and denied their medications, making the problem worse.
http://www.ejfi.org/DV/dv-6.htm
Re:bipolar wife wants a divorce ColoHill: First off, welcome.
Secondly, I feel for you. My husband is doing the same thing right now. He has been on and off depression meds for some time now but often times, they make things worse. This is one reason I beleive he might be bi-polar. My brother is mildly bi-polar and my mother and I have said from the time that my husband and I started dating that we believed he may be struggeling with this disease. It can be hard to diagnose. The only thing I can say to you is to do what is in your heart. If you really love her, you will know deep down if this is indeed one of her swings. My hubby has threatened divorce before. This time, he started an affair and then tried to ask for a seperation saying I was a bad mom and he needed me to go get help. Anyhow, he later said he was trying to take the light off of himself and what he was doing wrong. Some days, he seems remorseful. Some days, not so much. As much as you may love your wife, I have come to realize that sometimes love is not enough reason to stay with someone. I don't think you should abandon her when she needs you after surgery but it is up to you to decide your future. Maybe right now, is a good time for you to think about it all. Anyway, best of luck to you. I made the decision to stay. Can't say how much longer that decision will actually get me. Only you can decide for yourself. No matter what decision you make, I can guarentee that it will not be an easy decision for you to follow through with. Good luck again.
