Hope & Faith MadorSad: All
Is this a good way to keep going just to have hope and faith. I know the W loves me she just will not let herself trust me. I broke that trust long ago and with smallllllllll steps she has given me some trust. We are going to counseling she just can not trust me is that OK Am I expecting way to much way to fast ! She delt with me for yeas and now I just change over night I can see her point but every time I look at her I see all the reason to just give that extra she did nothing to get here I did should I not try to rebuild what I let fall apart right in front of my eyes. She whent throught all this work why would she not take the payoff for this work. My gut is empty and I know why I let her down she may never belive in me like she did. :'( :'( God I let her down :'( :'(
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Re:Hope & Faith Bug: Hugs first of all. :( Now to answer your question. She is still with you. Trust takes a moment to shatter and a long time to rebuild. I know you two are having your ups and downs. I dont know your wife but if you want an honest opinion. If my husband, after everything he did to me, tried I mean REALLY tried to change, it would have taken a while but I would have been able to forgive him. Would I have been able to love him? I don't know but it does not sound like she is to the point I was at yet. She is just hurt and confused. You ask if you should keep going. Ask yourself, do you love her? Do you want her in your life? Then even if you only take baby steps for years, its worth every inch.
Re:Hope & Faith MadorSad: Bug
You are right. I just need a pick me up. She is here and I push to much but she is realy just a great person. I told her once long long ago befor we were married that if she ever left me it would be like loseing my arms well 12 years down the road I find I was right. I will stay the corse and it will lead me to it's end with hope & fath
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Re:Hope & Faith Bug: I hope you find happiness and an abundence of love at the end of your road. :)
Re:Hope & Faith marfanoidus: First of all, I don't know what you did to violate her trust of you, and I don't want to know. But you need to understand something - she will never trust you fully again - the fear of a repeat of what you did will ALWAYS be in her head, and rightfully so. Hell, most women have an innate distrust of men, so when men do something to validate that mistrust - don't expect them to lightly abandon their misgivings.
Forgiveness is not something that can be earned, it just has to be given, given from deep deep down in a person's faith or character.
Just don't push - you'll look like your up to something. Let her know its in her court. This will provide her some sense of control over her own destiny, and if you violate her trust again, I hope your nards get whacked off.
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