Re:strange days.. any tips? ChristyM: I have to say I agree with whatthef? ...
There isn't much you can do until she figures out some things for herself.
Christy
Re:strange days.. any tips? pauly: I third what Whatthef and ChristyM say,she has issues to resolve and the only way she is going to know how she feels if she has the space to conduct her life.
In turn you need to work on you and make yourself happy but always be there for her should that arise.
Good Luck
Re:strange days.. any tips? sadinct: whathef-
I rather like that one.. plus there's the additional distance also suggested.
One of the reason's I've tried to be more attentive is that every time she has ranted about wanting divorce/sep (usally when drunk), she complains I've "done nothing" in response. Not true, of course, I've tried to address the problem as best I can, (and without any action on her part) dut that does not meet her standard...
Thank you, Christy.... I wish she would talk to someone who can help her figure out what's important to her. She's just not rational right now.
thanks again-
Doug
Re:strange days.. any tips? sadinct: pauly- the problem with making me happy is that I have somehow intertwined my happiness with hers. Rather than worrying about how to make myself happy, I have tried to concentrate on her happiness (unsuccessfully). When she's happy, I'm flying high. When she's sad/unhappy, well.. you know..
Thanks!
Doug
Re:strange days.. any tips? pauly: I had the same problem ,some referred to it as an addiction.Many are so hell bent on making their partners happy they forget about themselves.I'll give you an example;every time I tried reading a paper or book in front of my wife she would crave my attention.This went on for years.When she left I was not only caught unaware but I was unable to concentrate on certain things,tv etc.
Slightly off the track I know but Doug,you should really try and look after no1,if only to better yourself.
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