Re:Chemistry...sexual or intellectual? in_search_of: Don't what we are saying is that he obviously likes parts of you, its just not there "He's just not into you" as the new book says. However, that does not mean that he doesn't think you are a wonderful wonderful person. For instance my ex and I are still friends and I think he is wonderful, but there was just no chemistry. Its nothing that was wrong with either of us....
Re:Chemistry...sexual or intellectual? Shanna: I know what no chemisty feels like...I have had chemistry with a less attractice guy and not with a super hot guy. I think it is animalistic. We have zero control over that part.
Re:Chemistry...sexual or intellectual? ChristyM: I don't necessarily think it's animalistic ...
When I met my ex, we had known each other barely 2 hours and it already felt so comfortable and easy with him I felt like I had known him for years. We had the same sense of humor, he was attractive, smart, etc. I think it's when two people just "click" but there also has to be some sexual desire.
Chemistry is just two people that are good when they are apart, but together make something even better.
Christy
Re:Chemistry...sexual or intellectual? in_search_of: Christy, I hate to disagree with you, and take it for what it is worth (probably less than 2 cents). But I think what was meant was animalistic was exactly what you said. You just knew, it was animal instinct and etc that you knew after just 2 hours that it was a match.
The chemistry itself was obvious to you, you just knew, there can be no logical explanation for something like that in two hours. I think that is the animalistic element of chemistry right there.
Perhaps the whole discussion depends on your definition of animalistic.
Re:Chemistry...sexual or intellectual? JimB: Something for y'all to chew on:
The definition of chemistry is irrelevant, because it's essentially uncontrollable. Chemistry either exists, or it doesn't. Compatibility is a far more controllable element of a relationship, and therefore is more deserving of our attention.
Discuss. 8)
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