what I learned- my Stan impression Kinney26: You see, I learned something today, actually over the last 4 1/2 months. It is great to set goals for the future, but while you are trying to reach these goals don't forget to appreciate what you already have. I was always so caught up in wanting to save money and buy a house and have some sort of financial security that most of the time I forgot to stop and smell the roses. Like just taking my wife out for a good time once in a while or not freaking out when my wife spent some money on herself. I made to much of a big deal on money things and I'm sure that made her unhappy at times. While in my head I was just trying to make a better future for us, I was screwing up the most important thing, the present. All I am saying is, in the future I will appreciate what I have more, because you never know when it will be gone.
Re:what I learned- my Stan impression butters: The money issue was a big deal in our relationship also. She did not want any debt whatsoever, and I cant say I wanted debt but sometimes it was unavoidable. Well it may have been slightly avoidable but I may be dead tomorrow also.
My point is enjoy life, you may not be able to enjoy it tomorrow. So I lived by the rule that you dont put yourself in debt more than you can pay off the following month. But even this was not good enough for her. Any amount of debt whatsoever would send her into a fit. No wonder she had absolutley no credit when we met, she couldnt even get a credit card thats how poor her credit was.
Well she shouldnt have any debt problems now with the amount of child support I am paying, only 16 more years to go, yeah.
Re:what I learned- my Stan impression seth: Cartman: Oh, screw you guys! Screw you! :)
Re:what I learned- my Stan impression seth: I was always uptight about money too and that caused some problems in our relationship. But now that I look back I had every reason to be uptight. She watched out for her bottom line, paid HER bills, grew her retirement account and allowed me to support us while we were in school.... She told me we wouldn't have to worry about retirement (her parents are wealthy and she's already inherited a bit) and that she had enough for a downpayment in a couple of years.
So I thought, who was I to quibble about money with her. Then she left. Whoops, no marital commitment and I can't sue her b/c she suggested over the phone that I physicall abused her--a false charge but deterrent enough.
Also, I went about trying to collect in the wrong way b/c I don't really have much of a case. Try to sue her and I'll get charged w/ felony extortion....
I got conned by the best, just like Nicolas Cage in "Matchstick Men." But just like Nicolas Cage, I'm feeling positive that there'll be a happy ending.... :D
Re:what I learned- my Stan impression amess: And the lesson learnt? Marry someone who agrees with you on how money should be handled. # 1 problem for divorce.
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