we had the talk inebr: He came over tonight so we could talk ...once again he said he couldn't see things working out and he thought we should divorce. I told him I would come by his office on Thursday so we could download the paperwork.
I feel awful. I can't believe this is happening, ...well, I guess I can. I just didn't want it to. I felt like I had to be strong and not cry, I didn't want him to see me cry once again!! Why wouldn't he try? Why did he have to be so stubborn? And he told me I should be the one to move out since the apt was his first, he has the lease.
I am feeling very overwhelmed about everything ...what am I going to DO? overwhelmed about money, the logistics of this, telling my family, facing everyone with the news, I am SO SAD. overwhelmed. I know I am going to feel better on the other side of this. I hope I did everything I could. I hope I don't regret saying "ok" when he said we shoudl get the divorce. I finally said "ok".
I need a hug...
Re: we had the talk hurtingverymuch: Hey inebr
Sorry that you're feeling so awful. Feeling overwhelmed is perfectly natural. If you feel you've tried everything you could to try and work this out, there's nothing much more you can do. I, too, do not want a divorce, but when the other person is not willing to try and work it out and set on carrying this through, I don't know if there's anything you can do to change their mind.
As far as regrets go, in time, he may be the one doing the regretting and not you.
Sorry, I'm not much help.
Sending you big hugs and hope you feel better.
HUGS!
Hurt
Re: we had the talk grober: inebr,
Sorry you're going through this. The beginning is the worst part. My X didn't want to work things out either. It is heartbreaking.
Just remember, take it one day at a time. You don't have to have all the answers all at once. You can figure things out at you're own pace. I think you will discover you're stronger than you think.
Take care.
Re: we had the talk dominowin: My gosh, inebr, I'm so sorry. It doesn't make any sense to me why if he wants the divorce *he* shouldn't be the one moving out...but hang in there!! Future days will not *all* be like this...one day, or hour, or minute, or second at a time...
Re: we had the talk JimB: I'm really sorry inebr.
Just remember the mantra: "I will be fine I will be fine I will be fine". Because you will be. It'll be a while before you really feel fine, but you will be fine.
And keep trying to find the positives. Moving out does suck, but imagine what it would be like staying alone in the place you built all your memories together. I think you're getting the better end of the deal on that.
Anyway, one day at a time. Good luck.
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